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Post by nyuboi on Oct 24, 2013 18:47:20 GMT -5
You were worried about being welcomed here because of what one member private, emphasis on PRIVATE, messaged you? If you are not welcomed here, its is directly attributable to your own actions. Take responsibility for yourself. People have been very kind and patient with you....most have exercised so much patience that they have unknowingly become enablers. You have taken advantage of many people's kindness and true intents of helping you. You need therapy, not weight loss surgery. This is really depressing me 6 days before surgery. I am sorry if I drove people crazy on my crazy journey to surgery. I didn't mean to piss off anyone. I mean that.
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Post by fullhousemom on Oct 24, 2013 18:50:53 GMT -5
P.S. If you really want to know about the bathroom life of a surgery you aren't going to have, use your search bar. #DS101, #DSbasicinformation, #takeresponsibilityforyourownlife
Signed, one of the less patient members on this forum
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Post by newyorkbitch on Oct 24, 2013 19:18:26 GMT -5
nyuboi, you need to join the RNY discussion board. Focus on what you are actually about to do, your plans for recovery, etc. It is counterproductive for you to focus on the DS.
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Post by Paula on Oct 24, 2013 19:39:28 GMT -5
Paul, do you realize that asking the questions you asked here in the manner you asked them...the statement that you'd take "dirty and stinky" any day...is really perpetuating a stereotype that those of us who have a DS have to deal with? I'm NOT dirty and stinky. I'd dare say the rest who have this don't feel they are dirty and stinky either. And if I was being totally honest, I'm insulted at the insinuation with the little backhanded comments and questions like these.
As for the rest, I fail to see what purpose shit stirring is honestly going to solve. The point of posting something publicly that was (IF it was said...we all are getting it secondhand) said to you privately was simply nothing more than stirring up shit that didn't need to be stirred.
I dig why you are here on the DS board even though you have an RNY scheduled. A number of us with the DS lived with an RNY. I don't know about the others, but I do know that I don't venture much outside of the DS side. So it makes sense to go to where the experienced people are,but you have got to wrap your brain around what YOU are having done. And that isn't a DS, so why questions about how dirty and stinky a DS is???
As I've dealt with you over the time you have been here, your behavior over time has honestly begun to make me to question if you are just on here to play little games at our expense. And I'm the person who always tries to see the best in everyone no matter what. I give second, third, and even more chances. Id like to give you the benefit of the doubt. I WANT to believe you. But this ridiculous behavior on your part is making it increasingly difficult for even me to take you seriously.
I want to be able to help...to offer advice. But you seriously have to take some responsibility for your behavior and STOP doing ridiculous stuff like this. You are alienating people who can help you.
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Post by nyuboi on Oct 24, 2013 20:37:16 GMT -5
Paul, do you realize that asking the questions you asked here in the manner you asked them...the statement that you'd take "dirty and stinky" any day...is really perpetuating a stereotype that those of us who have a DS have to deal with? I'm NOT dirty and stinky. I'd dare say the rest who have this don't feel they are dirty and stinky either. And if I was being totally honest, I'm insulted at the insinuation with the little backhanded comments and questions like these. As for the rest, I fail to see what purpose shit stirring is honestly going to solve. The point of posting something publicly that was (IF it was said...we all are getting it secondhand) said to you privately was simply nothing more than stirring up shit that didn't need to be stirred. I dig why you are here on the DS board even though you have an RNY scheduled. A number of us with the DS lived with an RNY. I don't know about the others, but I do know that I don't venture much outside of the DS side. So it makes sense to go to where the experienced people are,but you have got to wrap your brain around what YOU are having done. And that isn't a DS, so why questions about how dirty and stinky a DS is??? As I've dealt with you over the time you have been here, your behavior over time has honestly begun to make me to question if you are just on here to play little games at our expense. And I'm the person who always tries to see the best in everyone no matter what. I give second, third, and even more chances. Id like to give you the benefit of the doubt. I WANT to believe you. But this ridiculous behavior on your part is making it increasingly difficult for even me to take you seriously. I want to be able to help...to offer advice. But you seriously have to take some responsibility for your behavior and STOP doing ridiculous stuff like this. You are alienating people who can help you. The dirty and stinky was a QUOTE from a previous post by someone. I was quoting them and had it in quotation marks. I was NEVER saying a DS patient was dirty and stinky. That was taken completely out of context. And I removed EN's PM to me within 30 minutes of posting it. Decided it shouldn't be shared.
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Post by nyuboi on Oct 24, 2013 20:38:26 GMT -5
Please do not gang up on me right now. I am 1 day from pre-op and 5 days from surgery from tomorrow morning. I am stressed and anxious and just want to try and stay calm.
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Post by newyorkbitch on Oct 24, 2013 21:35:28 GMT -5
It's simple - stop reading and posting on this DS board.
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Post by nyuboi on Oct 24, 2013 22:23:01 GMT -5
It's simple - stop reading and posting on this DS board. :-(
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Post by newanatomy on Oct 25, 2013 2:32:05 GMT -5
Sorry nyuboi. I didn't mean to start a shit storm with my asinine comments. I was responding, in a tongue-in-cheek way, to your assumption that it would be difficult to be clean post DS. It seemed reminiscent of someone trying to start a surgery war.
Be well, I wish you a quick, complete recovery from your successful surgery.
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Post by meq815 on Oct 25, 2013 8:39:12 GMT -5
#maybeifweignorehimhe'llgoaway
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Post by kyal on Oct 25, 2013 9:07:28 GMT -5
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX [Edited as Requested by Admin]
Paul: this single post just lost you any tiny shred of credibility you had left.
You SHOULD NOT be having any surgery. You have chose a surgeon out of a book because you think NYU is cool even though most of us, including me who is from Australia where Fielding is also from, have warned you not too. You have signed up for a procedure you obviously don't want and can't seem to come to terms with your decision.
I've met people like you before. One person I advised not to use a particular surgeon, this person went ahead anyway and their surgery has failed. Another was given the same warning and had major complication.
Some people just won't be told and as the old saying goes, "XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX". [Edited as Requested by Admin]
You've been good entertainment but your wasting good peoples time and trust now.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2013 10:17:23 GMT -5
I was being NICE to you, Paul, by PMing you that bit of information. I COULD have posted it to you right here. Or I could have let you into that group and let you get the kind of bashing you have richly earned but are protected from getting on this board.
You wore out your welcome on this, a DS board, a LONG LONG LONG time ago.
What you need now is to go find some RNY people with endless patience so that you can hopefully get some information about the surgery you are ACTUALLY going to have.
If you don't want to get bashed, then you need to quit coming back to the place where you have acted so badly and alienated so many people. This is not rocket science. There are about a gazillion RNY and general WLS groups on Facebook. Go join a dozen or so of those and crosspost in all of them. That should get you a nice load of attention.
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Post by nyuboi on Oct 25, 2013 14:52:38 GMT -5
I was being NICE to you, Paul, by PMing you that bit of information. I COULD have posted it to you right here. Or I could have let you into that group and let you get the kind of bashing you have richly earned but are protected from getting on this board. You wore out your welcome on this, a DS board, a LONG LONG LONG time ago. What you need now is to go find some RNY people with endless patience so that you can hopefully get some information about the surgery you are ACTUALLY going to have. If you don't want to get bashed, then you need to quit coming back to the place where you have acted so badly and alienated so many people. This is not rocket science. There are about a gazillion RNY and general WLS groups on Facebook. Go join a dozen or so of those and crosspost in all of them. That should get you a nice load of attention. It was you who last month said "No one is going to give him shit if he gets an RNY," and that I wouldn't have to leave.
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Post by Girlrocker on Oct 25, 2013 15:01:42 GMT -5
I was being NICE to you, Paul, by PMing you that bit of information. I COULD have posted it to you right here. Or I could have let you into that group and let you get the kind of bashing you have richly earned but are protected from getting on this board. You wore out your welcome on this, a DS board, a LONG LONG LONG time ago. What you need now is to go find some RNY people with endless patience so that you can hopefully get some information about the surgery you are ACTUALLY going to have. If you don't want to get bashed, then you need to quit coming back to the place where you have acted so badly and alienated so many people. This is not rocket science. There are about a gazillion RNY and general WLS groups on Facebook. Go join a dozen or so of those and crosspost in all of them. That should get you a nice load of attention. It was you who last month said "No one is going to give him shit if he gets an RNY," and that I wouldn't have to leave. SERIOUSLY Paul?! I wasn't going to say anything further because nothing keeps a flame going more than a fan. You are a mess. You need help. You shouldn't be having bariatric surgery, you are completely ill prepared for it. You want to blame the fact you're having an RNY as being asked to 'leave'. Which you aren't being asked to, no one can understand why you aren't spending time focused on the surgery you ARE having. You have no ability whatsoever to look inward and fix yourself. There are 15 pages of advice, caring, patience on one thread alone, besides the countless time/hours people have spent trying to help you. None of which, incidentally, slams the RNY, all which tried in some fashion or form to throw you the life preserver you won't reach for yourself. I have spoken MANY times about my RNY, correcting your misconceptions, offering to help, and you have not asked, acknowledged once. I know better than to throw more time/energy into an addict or anyone who doesn't want to admit they have a problem. You have worn out your welcome, dumped on everyone who has tried to help you. Deal with it. And to the contrary, I do not find this entertaining, I think it's been like watching a train wreck about to happen, where you want to but can't take your eyes off it; it's sad and worse, a detriment to the people here who seek help and are trying to give it.
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Post by nyuboi on Oct 25, 2013 15:23:02 GMT -5
<< I don't know what the point of this entire web community is if we can't share info with DSers without receiving flack. A failed web-search on your part doesn't give you airs to play gatekeeper. you're making this a hostile place to recommend good doctors who take WLS patient's needs seriously. I just hope that others in the Tri State Area aren't discouraged from recommending those who have provided them with excellent care for fear retaliation from you.>>Read more: weightlosssurgery.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=talk&action=display&thread=7559&page=2#ixzz2ilZsFh9TI DID NOT WRITE THE ABOVE. The posts made on that thread are someone accurate. You can make a point Kyal without saying I have borderline personality disorder, and without saying "you cant fix stupid." Just as there being a way to bash Fielding and give a serious opinion, without calling the person going to him a "fuckin idiot" in the process. Keywords they posted are "hostile place," "without receiving flack," "fear retaliation." I was afraid to announce I went with Fielding. I specifically wrote "Please do not go off on me about this. I know how everyone feels about Fielding, but you all told me to take charge of my own life and make a decision and I did. Please respect that." And then Kyal comes along and plays the Fielding card, while calling me BPD in the process. Similar things happened when I posted Fielding as a suggestion for consideration on the vetted list. You can just say he's an awful surgeon and give an opinion without calling me various things in the process. I knew there would be retaliation. One shouldn't be afraid to post here. There I said it. For the 4 PM's I got from people telling me not to let this get to me and focus on surgery, thank you. I know it's not everyone and that some wish me well. I am obviously not the only one afraid to say stuff from the PMs I got, from bb212's post on that thread, and from that chandani girl's post on the original thread. This is why some people stay lurkers and only read. Someone had to say it. And since I appear to be hated anyway, I figured I would represent for those who want to post. Maybe this will help future people who post. Am I allowed to make one final post the day of my surgery saying i'm heading in, or will I get yelled at on my iPhone in the hospital waiting room? I always had a vision of announcing I was going in and getting good feedback from people. I hope I will still be in your prayers and thoughts on Wednesday.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2013 15:47:39 GMT -5
Paul I haven't read all of the last of this thread. The message you received from EN is right. You AREN'T having the DS for reasons beyond your control so why would you want to be in a DS patient group and not get involved with RNY folks that can help and answer your questions concerning your surgery.
BTW what was your purpose in posting that PRIVATE MESSAGE here. Search facebook for WLS groups (no specific surgery) or RNY boards and go there. Also OH may be a good place for you to be on the RNY board, it is very active.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2013 15:50:48 GMT -5
I was being NICE to you, Paul, by PMing you that bit of information. I COULD have posted it to you right here. Or I could have let you into that group and let you get the kind of bashing you have richly earned but are protected from getting on this board. You wore out your welcome on this, a DS board, a LONG LONG LONG time ago. What you need now is to go find some RNY people with endless patience so that you can hopefully get some information about the surgery you are ACTUALLY going to have. If you don't want to get bashed, then you need to quit coming back to the place where you have acted so badly and alienated so many people. This is not rocket science. There are about a gazillion RNY and general WLS groups on Facebook. Go join a dozen or so of those and crosspost in all of them. That should get you a nice load of attention. It was you who last month said "No one is going to give him shit if he gets an RNY," and that I wouldn't have to leave. You are not getting shit because you're getting an RNY. You're getting told off because of your unending acting out. THAT is what has made you no longer welcome here. If you'd quit acting like a jerk, it would be one thing....Well, actually, I don't know if that would help at this point or not. You have earned every bit of pushback you've gotten here. Don't expect anyone here to invest anything further in you. Go find some RNY people to bother.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2013 15:57:02 GMT -5
I was being NICE to you, Paul, by PMing you that bit of information. I COULD have posted it to you right here. Or I could have let you into that group and let you get the kind of bashing you have richly earned but are protected from getting on this board. You wore out your welcome on this, a DS board, a LONG LONG LONG time ago. What you need now is to go find some RNY people with endless patience so that you can hopefully get some information about the surgery you are ACTUALLY going to have. If you don't want to get bashed, then you need to quit coming back to the place where you have acted so badly and alienated so many people. This is not rocket science. There are about a gazillion RNY and general WLS groups on Facebook. Go join a dozen or so of those and crosspost in all of them. That should get you a nice load of attention. It was you who last month said "No one is going to give him shit if he gets an RNY," and that I wouldn't have to leave. You wouldn't have to leave this board based on surgery at all. Although proboards is more DS based (only because most here have had the DS) there are other surgery types here. No not as many but we are welcome here (or I think so anyway ;D) but we don't come here to start crazy ass post. We come to support others walking the WLS walk, whether they have the same or different surgeries. You really need to sit back and re-read all of your post. YOU are alienating yourself, no one is do it for you. Heads up: Even on RNY specific or general WLS specific boards if you continue to behave the way you are someone is going to hand your ass to you.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2013 15:57:56 GMT -5
Oh goody, the preparation for the GBCF flounce.
And maybe you should become one of them.
Do you have any idea how many attention whores have claimed to represent the silent, abused masses?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2013 16:00:24 GMT -5
It was you who last month said "No one is going to give him shit if he gets an RNY," and that I wouldn't have to leave. SERIOUSLY Paul?! I wasn't going to say anything further because nothing keeps a flame going more than a fan. You are a mess. You shouldn't be having bariatric surgery, you are completely ill prepared for it. You want to blame the fact you're having an RNY as being asked to 'leave'. Which you aren't being asked to, no one can understand why you aren't spending time focused on the surgery you ARE having. You have no ability whatsoever to look inward and fix yourself. There are 15 pages of advice, caring, patience on one thread alone, besides the countless time/hours people have spent trying to help you. None of which, incidentally, slams the RNY, all which tried in some fashion or form to throw you the life preserver you won't reach for yourself. I have spoken MANY times about my RNY, correcting your misconceptions, offering to help, and you have not asked, acknowledged once. I know better than to throw more time/energy into an addict or anyone who doesn't want to admit they have a problem. You have worn out your welcome, dumped on everyone who has tried to help you. Deal with it. And to the contrary, I do not find this entertaining, I think it's been like watching a train wreck about to happen, where you want to but can't take your eyes off it; it's sad and worse, a detriment to the people here who seek help and are trying to give it. Exhalt Sharyl! Excellent response.
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Post by duodenalswitcharoo on Oct 25, 2013 16:22:37 GMT -5
I have wished you well on several occasions...that has not changed and I don't take it back.
However, you continuously "ask for it". I have friends who have had rny, I even have friends with the crapband...but you know what is different between them and you? They aren't whoring themselves out for attention on a DS board. This forum has other boards ya know!
Also, the borderline personality disorder is worth checking out. You DO exhibit signs. Desperate for attention, can't make a decision, paranoia etc. Go get some counselling, have your RNY, make some friends who have had the RNY and enjoy life!
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Post by brooklyngirl on Oct 25, 2013 16:47:29 GMT -5
My inner teacher is coming out and I can't take it anymore.....
Why don't all of you just stop it??? What the hell is the point of all this? If you're here to give support/advice/tough love, then you already tried. If someone doesn't want to take your advice, and behaves in a way you don't like, it's their problem. Let him move on. All anyone is accomplishing is making someone feel like shit while aggravating yourself. This is nonsense.
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Post by newyorkbitch on Oct 25, 2013 17:04:40 GMT -5
There have been so many personal attacks on this guy - I thought it was against the rules here. Obviously some people are enjoying attacking him.
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Post by pandykorn on Oct 25, 2013 17:53:24 GMT -5
baby wipes.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2013 18:14:11 GMT -5
My inner teacher is coming out and I can't take it anymore..... Why don't all of you just stop it??? What the hell is the point of all this? If you're here to give support/advice/tough love, then you already tried. If someone doesn't want to take your advice, and behaves in a way you don't like, it's their problem. Let him move on. All anyone is accomplishing is making someone feel like shit while aggravating yourself. This is nonsense. "Let him" move on? Are you fucking KIDDING me?
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Post by brooklyngirl on Oct 25, 2013 18:35:51 GMT -5
My inner teacher is coming out and I can't take it anymore..... Why don't all of you just stop it??? What the hell is the point of all this? If you're here to give support/advice/tough love, then you already tried. If someone doesn't want to take your advice, and behaves in a way you don't like, it's their problem. Let him move on. All anyone is accomplishing is making someone feel like shit while aggravating yourself. This is nonsense. "Let him" move on? Are you fucking KIDDING me? No, I'm not kidding you. He obviously has anxieties and trouble making a decision. You tried to give advice and he didn't take it. You don't like or agree with the way he does things. I get it. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, is trying to shove it down someone's throat and making them feel like shit constructive in any way? Even if you're not TRYING to make anyone feel like shit, that's whats happening. Everyone move on.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2013 19:39:57 GMT -5
Being a forum nanny will get you some very predictable results here, brooklyngirl. You don't get to decide when anyone "moves on." Take a look at the TOS.
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Post by newyorkbitch on Oct 25, 2013 19:43:44 GMT -5
Yawn.
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Post by brooklyngirl on Oct 25, 2013 19:57:50 GMT -5
For real. Over it.
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Post by bradleyp on Oct 25, 2013 19:59:37 GMT -5
Nyuboi is trolling at level 300 now.
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