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Post by jillbeme on Jan 9, 2012 1:42:11 GMT -5
I keep going back and forth on whether or not to have this surgery. When I had the Lap band I just knew it was going to be the tool I needed to help lose my weight. It was 3 years of pure hell. From day one it was a nightmare. I have a sweet loving husband I have never ate the amount of sweets he eats nor do I desire to. Today at the grocery store he was in the bakery and found him a carrot cake and they had some chocolate there he said here get this one for you... You lie chocolate. I said I don't think I can go thru with this surgery he said why not? I said it is going to be to difficult with you. He said I love you the way you are, however you have to do what's right for you. He figured since I wasn't dieting or pre op yet that I would enjoy the chocolate cake. I did not get the cake.
Why can't I just say this is what I am going to do and do it. Insurance is approved, just waiting on me to commit.. If I fail again, and with my current self esteem I don't know that I could handle it.
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Post by jillybean720 on Jan 9, 2012 8:20:16 GMT -5
I highly recommend seeking counseling support to guide you through your WLS journey. You've already been through a lot with your band, it sounds like, and it doesn't sound like your husband is providing the kind of support you need right now (not that he's NOT supportive in that he obviously loves you regardless, which is awesome, but you may need a different kind of support right now).
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Post by Deleted on Jan 9, 2012 9:45:27 GMT -5
honestly I didn't think I would be a sucess until maybe a year out - after I hit goal.
but, have surgery? after reading and thinking about it for a long time. the final thing was I watched a VSG surgery on youtube and I thought, that's not so bad.
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Post by pktwatch on Jan 9, 2012 9:55:28 GMT -5
I craved sweets before my DS, after not so much. I am just a few months out and have not had any real deserts yet, nor have I had bread (and am not missing it). I do eat yogurt and the protein drinks taste like desert to me. My wife and family still eat them and it is not bothering me at all, surprised me but that is what happened!
GOOD LUCK!
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Post by redbabe08 on Jan 9, 2012 11:30:36 GMT -5
as someone who has had the band too - you need to get it out of your head you can't succeed with the sleeve.
i understand it's easy to do - but they are 2 totally different surgeries.
check & see if your surgeon has a support group or counseling - i like the idea that was suggested.
if your not ready - your not ready, but honestly...you can't beat yourself up because of the band.
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Post by princess10 on Jan 9, 2012 15:31:14 GMT -5
I just decided that enough was enough. God was good enough to provide me with insurance that would pay for this surgery, and I did not want to blow the chance of my insurance changing and not having coverage. I knew that I would not live to see my child go to college if I did not do something. It was the best thing that I ever did.
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Post by nextchapter on Jan 9, 2012 17:05:23 GMT -5
I also have what if’s on my mind they can be over whelming. I have a therapist to help with
Stress and food issues. I highly recommend working with someone.
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Post by loulou7 on Jan 10, 2012 19:38:18 GMT -5
I knew I could do it when I realized that I wouldn't feel hungry. For me, the failure of every diet was feeling hungry and deprived constantly. And craving food that I knew I *shouldn't* eat. When I realized that I didn't feel hungry, and that my cravings were manageable, I knew I could do it.
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Post by kellic on Jan 10, 2012 20:26:45 GMT -5
Once I had the surgery and my hunger was gone, I thought I can do this. However, I was not open with all my friends and family until I was almost to goal as I was afraid I would fail and then people would think I was stupid for having surgery. I get hungry now but nothing like pre-op and I can eat just about anything in moderation without having to overeat. It's great!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2012 21:46:41 GMT -5
For me, getting WLS was like the a last act of a desperate man. I really wasn't excited. Every time a doctor recommended it, I changed doctors. It took repeated head whacks with a 2 x 4. Sometimes, when I'm choking down my vitamins, I wonder if it was worth it. Then I realize my hypertension, high cholesterol, and sleep apnea are all in remission. I no longer have to ride electric carts to shop and that I can actually live life instead of just sitting on my ass watching it on TV. We all hit our tipping point differently. Best wishes for a great journey to health.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2012 21:54:52 GMT -5
I realized the "I can do this" when I realized I couldn't do it without it..
I *could* lose, I could white-knuckle the losing and even the maintaining for a few years, way back when.. but I realized I didn't have it in me to do that again, and I knew I wasn't special and I wasn't going to be one of the tiny, itty-bitty minority that can lose and maintain for life..
I wanted to give myself a more level field, and I did it with surgery. So, I realized I could do this when I admitted I was not special, I was normal and normal people cannot lose well over 100lbs and maintain that loss.
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Post by Buckeye Girl on Jan 10, 2012 22:17:40 GMT -5
as someone who has had the band too - you need to get it out of your head you can't succeed with the sleeve. i understand it's easy to do - but they are 2 totally different surgeries. check & see if your surgeon has a support group or counseling - i like the idea that was suggested. if your not ready - your not ready, but honestly...you can't beat yourself up because of the band. What she said! |
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Post by grdngrl on Jan 11, 2012 23:55:31 GMT -5
as someone who has had the band too - you need to get it out of your head you can't succeed with the sleeve. i understand it's easy to do - but they are 2 totally different surgeries. check & see if your surgeon has a support group or counseling - i like the idea that was suggested. if your not ready - your not ready, but honestly...you can't beat yourself up because of the band. What she said! . . . AND WHAT THEY SAID!!! Three weeks out and i am not hungry . . . nothing like the band where you are hungry but can't eat without puking!!!!! |
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Post by INsupport on Jan 14, 2012 23:01:06 GMT -5
Your husband may mean well, but I think that he has to understand that it really is best if you start eating healthy, being healthy and that means he is going to have to change what temptations you have around you for you to succeed. I hope he is able to absorb information and adjust some behaviors that could help you. I really wanted to do everything I could to encourage my spouses success and instead of being or feeling denied, I found myself becoming happier and healthier too. I had to be willing to learn about food and it's effects on the body, sounds like he is willing at least to listen. Good luck to both of you!
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