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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2012 22:36:58 GMT -5
The closer I get to my "normal BMI goal" the more freaked I get that I won't make it.. plus add to that the realization that my normal BMI goal is likely a good 15lbs higher than I should be based on my slightly skewed body perception of my remaining flab.. so I need to get a BodPod done at my first goal to fine tune the later one as I'd like to aim for a low but healthy body fat percentage, then start working on building some muscle. My body will determine what is ultimately possible I know..
I'm still plugging away losing about 8+lbs a month, steady freddy with ease, no issues there.. so I know my body knows it's not over yet.. and there's def room to up the exercise for sure and I will when needed..
Just venting some personal fears and whatnot here.. 'cause where else? You guys know the deal better than anyone..
Still can only eat 2oz meat plus a little sauce, still logging everything, doing everything right.. but it doesn't settle the worries.. especially as I'm aiming for a personal goal of around 140+/- which I have NEVER seen my adult body at, ever.. the lowest I hit was 155 waaay back when, and def had some to go still. So this is totally uncharted territory I'm aiming for, which further makes me question myself. Other than these occasional nagging worries, I'm happy as a clam with the way things are going and how I'm feeling. Normal, yes.. but still unsettling.
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Post by Buckeye Girl on Jan 5, 2012 13:39:39 GMT -5
The closer I get to my "normal BMI goal" the more freaked I get that I won't make it.. plus add to that the realization that my normal BMI goal is likely a good 15lbs higher than I should be based on my slightly skewed body perception of my remaining flab.. so I need to get a BodPod done at my first goal to fine tune the later one as I'd like to aim for a low but healthy body fat percentage, then start working on building some muscle. My body will determine what is ultimately possible I know.. I'm still plugging away losing about 8+lbs a month, steady freddy with ease, no issues there.. so I know my body knows it's not over yet.. and there's def room to up the exercise for sure and I will when needed.. Just venting some personal fears and whatnot here.. 'cause where else? You guys know the deal better than anyone.. Still can only eat 2oz meat plus a little sauce, still logging everything, doing everything right.. but it doesn't settle the worries.. especially as I'm aiming for a personal goal of around 140+/- which I have NEVER seen my adult body at, ever.. the lowest I hit was 155 waaay back when, and def had some to go still. So this is totally uncharted territory I'm aiming for, which further makes me question myself. Other than these occasional nagging worries, I'm happy as a clam with the way things are going and how I'm feeling. Normal, yes.. but still unsettling. Yep...totally normal. I had to force myself to stop saying, "I wonder if my weight loss is done" out loud because I could tell it was driving my boyfriend up the wall. I also felt that my weight loss slowed dramatically at about 10 months out (with a little help from me), but when I look back that may be more of a mental thing. I should go check my tracker because I'm pretty sure I've lost about 10 lbs in the last 6-7 weeks or so. I remember saying, "I'm going to be 184 forever" a good bit after Halloween and now I'm around 174. Anyway, you know its normal and you know you are on track. And I know you will get there and likely lower if you want to go there too. Hang in there. It's working. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2012 13:49:18 GMT -5
@ Buckeye Girl- I appreciate that, thanks! I think it's because it's working so well that I feel unsettled.. like someone's going to pull the rug out any minute.
...and I know the hard part is the maintaining, the losing is generally the easy part. Just my hamster in the brain-case squeaking.. It's not used to the changes happening this fast..
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Post by bb212 on Jan 5, 2012 13:50:07 GMT -5
You'll make it Jo, no doubt about that! You're extremely diligent about your nutrition and it will pay off.
Cheers!
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Post by jillybean720 on Jan 5, 2012 15:08:47 GMT -5
I never reached my "goal" or a "normal" BMI. Who cares? I'm still ridiculously healthier than I was 100+ pounds heavier! And even if my BMI doesn't think so, I feel MUCH more "normal" in that I don't have to worry about not fitting in a restaurant booth, hanging over the arms of small seats (movie theaters, airplanes, stadiums, etc.), not being able to find clothes that don't fit...don't let a number on the scale be your primary determining factor for success.
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Post by roseselene on Jan 5, 2012 16:58:48 GMT -5
I'm at that point too! My weight loss has slowed down and even though I'm still losing, I find myself questioning if I'm doing something wrong. Then I tell myself...Nope, not doing anything wrong. And the rational side of me knows everything is fine, but the irrational side sometimes can't shut up.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2012 17:22:11 GMT -5
I never reached my "goal" or a "normal" BMI. Who cares? I'm still ridiculously healthier than I was 100+ pounds heavier! And even if my BMI doesn't think so, I feel MUCH more "normal" in that I don't have to worry about not fitting in a restaurant booth, hanging over the arms of small seats (movie theaters, airplanes, stadiums, etc.), not being able to find clothes that don't fit...don't let a number on the scale be your primary determining factor for success. Don't get me wrong, it's a % of bodyfat number I'm ultimately aiming for.. not a scale number as scales lie, but in the interim until I get my %BF vs lean calculated, the scale is my best tool I have access to everyday. Trust me, I'm loving that I'm 100lbs lighter and fitting comfy into sz 16's.. but no harm in me trying for a healthy BF range, if I can get to it in a healthy and sustainable way.. If my body calls it before then, so be it. I'm not about to fight it too damn much, because I want to land someplace I can maintain with happiness and not suffer to stay at an unreasonably low number, that is not realistic.. to me at least. Right now, I'm not fighting my body at all.. it's been a smooth melt so far and that's prob what's been messing with my head. Last time I lost like this I fought it tooth and nail, this time.. not so much, yet. |
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Post by Carolyn H. on Jan 5, 2012 19:02:39 GMT -5
Totally normal. I hit "normal" and I'm very happy with my loss, etc., but I'm still shooting for a little lower based on the saddlebags still attached to my thighs. Before I seek PS intervention, I wanted to give the losing a bit more fat thing a shot  You're doing great! I wouldn't sweat it. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2012 20:26:09 GMT -5
Jo, am I reading your surgery date right - you aren't even a year out?
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Post by Psyche on Jan 5, 2012 20:47:03 GMT -5
I hit below "normal" and I still have the saddlebags. I think it is just a curse many women have.
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Post by Buckeye Girl on Jan 5, 2012 21:49:04 GMT -5
I hit below "normal" and I still have the saddlebags. I think it is just a curse many women have. Don't tell me that...I keep telling myself, "5 more lbs and they'll be gone..." Oh well. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2012 21:56:57 GMT -5
Jo, am I reading your surgery date right - you aren't even a year out? Yep- had it April 2011, so not a year yet.. 16lbs were lost pre-op. |
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Post by Carolyn H. on Jan 5, 2012 22:59:15 GMT -5
I hit below "normal" and I still have the saddlebags. I think it is just a curse many women have. Argh.... I'm sure you're right. I just am hoping to shrink them as much as possible, I guess, lol. |
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Post by michellemj on Jan 6, 2012 0:25:48 GMT -5
Well, I don't think normal BMI is in my cards. I'm a shorty and for me to be "normal" I'd need to drop at least another 15lbs. Currently, I wear size 6-8 and I don't know where those 15lbs would come from.
Don't get me wrong...there's a TON of flaws and flab and whatnot on my body and I'm sure I would look better if I lost those 15 lbs and even more, but I can't wrap my head around being a size 2 or 4 nor do I really want to be (I already have issues with my collarbones being so darn visible). Some day, I'll have plastics (tummy tuck and breast lift...) and there's probably at least 5lbs of skin here, but...still not enough to drop me into normal land.
Regardless, I feel amazing at this weight and wouldn't trade it for the world, normal BMI or not. I acknowledge that my opinions are probably extremely abnormal, but...alas, it's something I've come to appreciate and realize over these last couple of months of living in this body...
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Post by Buckeye Girl on Jan 6, 2012 8:18:09 GMT -5
Well, I don't think normal BMI is in my cards. I'm a shorty and for me to be "normal" I'd need to drop at least another 15lbs. Currently, I wear size 6-8 and I don't know where those 15lbs would come from. Don't get me wrong...there's a TON of flaws and flab and whatnot on my body and I'm sure I would look better if I lost those 15 lbs and even more, but I can't wrap my head around being a size 2 or 4 nor do I really want to be (I already have issues with my collarbones being so darn visible). Some day, I'll have plastics (tummy tuck and breast lift...) and there's probably at least 5lbs of skin here, but...still not enough to drop me into normal land. Regardless, I feel amazing at this weight and wouldn't trade it for the world, normal BMI or not. I acknowledge that my opinions are probably extremely abnormal, but...alas, it's something I've come to appreciate and realize over these last couple of months of living in this body... I don't think your opinions are extremely abnormal. I think most of us realize the BMI scale is not great individually and has some serious limitations and shortcomings. I think it is easy for WLS folks (me included btw) to get a bit too wrapped up with the BMI because we hear so much about it from our medical charts and insurance approval process...but I don't think anyone in their right mind would say its really an accurate measurement/scale. This computer I'm on won't let me see your avatar this morning, but I think I'm placing you from OH...weren't you at an NY meet-up with Mikey and that guy with the awesome shoe closet who accidentally ran out on his iced tea check and Zee/Leila (I hope I'm spelling her name correctly)? Anyway, assuming you are who I think you are, you have made an amazing transformation and are super cute! I don't know where those 15 lbs would come from either! And besides, feeling amazing is pretty much everyone's common goal! Lindsey |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2012 8:36:34 GMT -5
Jo, am I reading your surgery date right - you aren't even a year out? Yep- had it April 2011, so not a year yet.. 16lbs were lost pre-op. in that case it is TOTALLY normal to have trouble with body image - you need more time for your brain to get used to things, it does not change as fast as your body has. so do what you need to but try not to worry about it. ENJOY!!! |
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Post by princess10 on Jan 6, 2012 9:19:01 GMT -5
I am losing at a good pace, logging everything, restriction is great, and I am CONSTANTLY waiting for the "other" shoe to fall. It drives my husband crazy because I stay worried about regain, not losing, etc...
I think that the worries are normal. I am only 7 months out from a life changing experience, and I think that takes time for your brain to come to grips with such a momentous change.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2012 13:54:55 GMT -5
I know that even if I hit my ultimate, wildest dream goal of 140-145, I'd still have saddebags and lots of squishy skin pooling. Someday, a plastic surgeon is going to have fun tailoring me. lol I'm fond of saying that naked, I resemble a flying squirrel.. So yeah, nothing save a few more surgeries will fix the melted look of my skin sack!  |
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Post by princess10 on Jan 6, 2012 15:50:17 GMT -5
the melty looking skin under my chin grosses me out. I can't wait until I can have it fixed. I am going to try to wait until I reach goal, but I don't know if I can stand it.
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Post by michellemj on Jan 6, 2012 21:15:16 GMT -5
Well, I don't think normal BMI is in my cards. I'm a shorty and for me to be "normal" I'd need to drop at least another 15lbs. Currently, I wear size 6-8 and I don't know where those 15lbs would come from. Don't get me wrong...there's a TON of flaws and flab and whatnot on my body and I'm sure I would look better if I lost those 15 lbs and even more, but I can't wrap my head around being a size 2 or 4 nor do I really want to be (I already have issues with my collarbones being so darn visible). Some day, I'll have plastics (tummy tuck and breast lift...) and there's probably at least 5lbs of skin here, but...still not enough to drop me into normal land. Regardless, I feel amazing at this weight and wouldn't trade it for the world, normal BMI or not. I acknowledge that my opinions are probably extremely abnormal, but...alas, it's something I've come to appreciate and realize over these last couple of months of living in this body... I don't think your opinions are extremely abnormal. I think most of us realize the BMI scale is not great individually and has some serious limitations and shortcomings. I think it is easy for WLS folks (me included btw) to get a bit too wrapped up with the BMI because we hear so much about it from our medical charts and insurance approval process...but I don't think anyone in their right mind would say its really an accurate measurement/scale. This computer I'm on won't let me see your avatar this morning, but I think I'm placing you from OH...weren't you at an NY meet-up with Mikey and that guy with the awesome shoe closet who accidentally ran out on his iced tea check and Zee/Leila (I hope I'm spelling her name correctly)? Anyway, assuming you are who I think you are, you have made an amazing transformation and are super cute! I don't know where those 15 lbs would come from either! And besides, feeling amazing is pretty much everyone's common goal! Lindsey Yep! That's me. and thanks for the compliments on my transformation. and perhaps I would benefit from some body composition analysis to figure out where I'm supposed to be. There's some fat left on my middle, but I'm not sure how much. and even though I'm short, I am quite muscular on my legs and my addiction to Bikram Yoga is only increasing that definition. The head issues are hard, but I try to remember that I was once a size 22/24 and only had dreams of a size 14 or 12, much less a 6. I still look at my clothes and wonder how the heck I'm gonna fit in them, but alas, I do! |
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Post by nextchapter on Jan 7, 2012 16:57:09 GMT -5
This has been a great post.. Without this forum I don’t know where I would be!! Your experiences are invaluable to me as a newbie. I haven’t had surgery yet still waiting for approval. I have never been a thin person even at my lowest as an adult 187 I was still considered obese. I think about goal weight verses BMI all the time. I don’t know what life is like on the other side of 187. When I got to 187 I was working out an average of 2 hours to 5 hours a day depending on what I was doing. I was single without a family. I want my life back and to be healthy for me and my family. That’s what I keep repeating to myself.
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Post by drhollywood on Jan 26, 2012 1:26:22 GMT -5
Congratulations JO with 100 lbs. I am new here and have no clue how to get my photo up. good to see you and some others here. Your looking awesome and proud of you.
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Post by April M. on Jan 26, 2012 2:35:52 GMT -5
Congratulations JO with 100 lbs. I am new here and have no clue how to get my photo up. good to see you and some others here. Your looking awesome and proud of you. To get a photo up you need to use a site like photobucket dot com. It's free. Just upload a picture, use their tools to crop it to a square and resize to 100x100 pixels, then copy the DIRECT LINK URL under the picture in your albums. Come here, click on edit profile, paste the URL in the avatar space. Voila! Good luck with it! |
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Post by Brandilynn on Jan 26, 2012 3:13:39 GMT -5
And for me, I think that's where switching focus from weight loss to body composition was *much less* crazy making.
And you know my feelings on the bodpod or getting hydrostatic weighing, I am for it - if ONLY to have an understanding of what mass might *could* leave, and what mass you dont need to be brick walling your brain about and whupping up on your "I knew I'd never" :}
Those pictures of me from the first time I started lifting to 3ish months later, there are 2 pounds and 2 SIZES and WAY different body composition worlds of difference.
Be schweet Jo!! Tell your "not gonna happen" Trix to STFU, dont let her be the bossa your mind!
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Post by countof3 on Jan 26, 2012 15:59:48 GMT -5
I'm bracing for the same. I'm definitely not at goal, still have a solid 40-50 to lose, and seem to continue at a decent pace (about where you are). I actually can eat about 3 oz of dense protein, but there are things that would be sliders to others that aren't to me - bread, ate it for the first time in probably 6 months, it filled me fast and made me sick later  I dont' crave bread so this wasn't one of those "gotta have it moments" it was a "I'm at business lunch with lawyers and my manager and have 3 more hours of court left, what can I eat that won't trigger dumping?". It was a club sandwhich but they brought it and used some fancy puffy bread.... bad news! Anyway, I'm trying hard to keep my head level. If I lose the 50 I want, excellent. If I do not - if I lost another 20 I'd be thrilled. The difference in my life between 180 and 318 will still be amazing. |
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You're doing great! I wouldn't sweat it. 
I dont' crave bread so this wasn't one of those "gotta have it moments" it was a "I'm at business lunch with lawyers and my manager and have 3 more hours of court left, what can I eat that won't trigger dumping?". It was a club sandwhich but they brought it and used some fancy puffy bread.... bad news!