Post by MikaPooh82 on May 9, 2013 9:56:21 GMT -5
Please read the following situations that occurred at two separate locations which will remain nameless and tell me how you would handle it.
Situation #1:
-I went to a support group at a facility that performs Revisions and DS and introduced myself as a Band to DS patient.
-I stated that I regained due to band complications (the surgery failed the patient).
-The moderator then proceeds to tell the group that if they don’t continue to diet & exercise then they will be unsuccessful (the patient failed the surgery).
-This comment made me feel as if I was being seen as a patient in denial. I don’t have anything against patients who have a hard time changing their behavior after surgery but that wasn’t the case with me. I wasn’t able to keep down solid protein which led to vomiting on almost daily basis. I wasn’t able to get in a lot of exercise because of the consistent port site pain.
Situation #2:
-I moved on to another support group at a facility that performs Revisions and DS and introduced myself as a Band to DS patient.
-I stated that the reason I felt that DS is the best choice for me is because I wanted a surgery that would give me the best chance at losing all of my excess weight & the least chance of weight regain.
-A patient stated that they were interested in DS but decided against it because they were told that it causes a lot of side effects.
-I stated that the surgeon can decrease the amount of complications by making a longer common channel.
-The moderator completely disregarded everything I said and proceeded to inform the group that DS has the highest complication rate. She also said DS patients take 15-20 pills a day, have bad body odor, constant diarrhea and end up blind!!!
-This comment left me shocked & speechless. I could understand if I was at a place that doesn’t offer DS as an option but I was at a facility where DS is performed by an actual Veteran DS Surgeon.
What would you do in these two separate situations?
What would you say in your response exactly so that you can state the correct information while remaining calm & respectful???
Sorry for the long rant. It’s just that I wish I could get support at the support groups instead of being blamed for my regain & being treated like DS was a bad choice.
Mika
Situation #1:
-I went to a support group at a facility that performs Revisions and DS and introduced myself as a Band to DS patient.
-I stated that I regained due to band complications (the surgery failed the patient).
-The moderator then proceeds to tell the group that if they don’t continue to diet & exercise then they will be unsuccessful (the patient failed the surgery).
-This comment made me feel as if I was being seen as a patient in denial. I don’t have anything against patients who have a hard time changing their behavior after surgery but that wasn’t the case with me. I wasn’t able to keep down solid protein which led to vomiting on almost daily basis. I wasn’t able to get in a lot of exercise because of the consistent port site pain.
Situation #2:
-I moved on to another support group at a facility that performs Revisions and DS and introduced myself as a Band to DS patient.
-I stated that the reason I felt that DS is the best choice for me is because I wanted a surgery that would give me the best chance at losing all of my excess weight & the least chance of weight regain.
-A patient stated that they were interested in DS but decided against it because they were told that it causes a lot of side effects.
-I stated that the surgeon can decrease the amount of complications by making a longer common channel.
-The moderator completely disregarded everything I said and proceeded to inform the group that DS has the highest complication rate. She also said DS patients take 15-20 pills a day, have bad body odor, constant diarrhea and end up blind!!!
-This comment left me shocked & speechless. I could understand if I was at a place that doesn’t offer DS as an option but I was at a facility where DS is performed by an actual Veteran DS Surgeon.
What would you do in these two separate situations?
What would you say in your response exactly so that you can state the correct information while remaining calm & respectful???
Sorry for the long rant. It’s just that I wish I could get support at the support groups instead of being blamed for my regain & being treated like DS was a bad choice.
Mika
