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Post by lovy19 on Jan 23, 2012 16:54:14 GMT -5
I just found out that my best friend boyfriend proposed to her and they want to get married in April. I was so excited for her until she told me it was in Jamaica Westindies... I am supposed to be the maid of honor, I hope I am cleared to travel at that time. Cleared as in no complications, she will never forgive me if I miss her wedding. She also has no clue that I am having surgery, she is against WLS but why should she be for it she is a size 6.
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Post by bb212 on Jan 23, 2012 16:59:46 GMT -5
How long after your scheduled DS is the wedding?
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Post by lovy19 on Jan 23, 2012 17:02:10 GMT -5
How long after your scheduled DS is the wedding? My surgery is feb6 2012 her wedding the middle of April 2012  |
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Post by Gail R on Jan 23, 2012 17:03:02 GMT -5
Everyone is different, plus you are having a major and complicated surgery. I would say you are cutting it very close. Be honest with her and find out if the time can be on the later end of their schedule. At nearly three months you may be fine for the wedding. AND you will probably need to have your dress altered if you don't make a lucky guess at your size LOL. PLEASE DO NOT change your surgery plans for any wedding. this is one of the most important things you will undertake in your life to save your life and to enjoy your future life. I hope it works out for you.
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Post by TooFatForTooLong on Jan 23, 2012 17:03:54 GMT -5
I had a VSG. My surgeon told me no airplane flights for 8 weeks.
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Post by bb212 on Jan 23, 2012 17:23:10 GMT -5
It is going to depend on your recovery. If you have no complications you should be fine. BUT.... Keep in mind that the DS recovery takes an entire year- it is a slow, gradual process.
Even though your incisions will heal and you might be mobile after a month, there are other things to consider:
1) The food stage your stomach is able to tolerate. If you travel, you may not be able to find food that your stomach can tolerate. You may have to bring protein shakes with you. At the wedding reception you have a hard time finding foods that won't irritate your tummy.
2) Weakness and fatigue! This is common in the first few months, you may tire very quickly.
3) Poop! Your intestines will be confused by all the changes and your poop cycle might not stabilize until later on
4) If you don't want your friend to know about your surgery, you will probably need to make a cover story if she notices you're tired and can't eat a lot of things.
5) Booze is a no-no for the first year. You may have to come up with an excuse if you are asked to join in a toast. The easiest excuse I can think of is to claim that you're on a new medication that doesn't jive well with "the sauce"
If you're well enough, I say do it! But keep in mind you will need to plan ahead and anticipate that you're still going to be in the early stages of recovery and the trip will have some unique challenges because of it.
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Post by vangy04 on Jan 23, 2012 17:28:16 GMT -5
For those of us who had surgery out of the country, we traveled within two weeks of our surgery date, so it's not like it can't be done. But it will be hard, and it was certainly painful at two weeks out.
If you decide to go, make sure you bring whatever you plan to eat because at that stage, airplanes and airports are not very food friendly. I know in the U.S. they recently started allowing you to bring food through security as long as you run it through the machine with your other carry-ons, although that may not cover all airlines or all airports.
You can ask your surgeon to give you an early admission letter or pass or something, as well, so you can board first and use a wheelchair if needed. That helps a little.
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Post by vangy04 on Jan 23, 2012 17:31:45 GMT -5
Of course, it would make the trip much easier in general if you tell her the truth. If she is truly your best friend, she will support you in your decision. If she condemns you for choosing a better life for yourself, the trip may not be worth the trouble of maintaining such a "friend".
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Post by sunday77 on Jan 23, 2012 17:50:13 GMT -5
I felt totally normal with the exception of not being able to eat as much within a week. I had some complications later on due to hormones but had that not happened, I would definitely been able to travel.
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Post by lovy19 on Jan 23, 2012 18:30:21 GMT -5
Everyone is different, plus you are having a major and complicated surgery. I would say you are cutting it very close. Be honest with her and find out if the time can be on the later end of their schedule. At nearly three months you may be fine for the wedding. AND you will probably need to have your dress altered if you don't make a lucky guess at your size LOL. PLEASE DO NOT change your surgery plans for any wedding. this is one of the most important things you will undertake in your life to save your life and to enjoy your future life. I hope it works out for you. Aww thanks Gail for your feedback, youre right I'm going to tell her and pray she don't get too pissed off. |
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Post by lovy19 on Jan 23, 2012 18:33:19 GMT -5
It is going to depend on your recovery. If you have no complications you should be fine. BUT.... Keep in mind that the DS recovery takes an entire year- it is a slow, gradual process. Even though your incisions will heal and you might be mobile after a month, there are other things to consider: 1) The food stage your stomach is able to tolerate. If you travel, you may not be able to find food that your stomach can tolerate. You may have to bring protein shakes with you. At the wedding reception you have a hard time finding foods that won't irritate your tummy. 2) Weakness and fatigue! This is common in the first few months, you may tire very quickly. 3) Poop! Your intestines will be confused by all the changes and your poop cycle might not stabilize until later on 4) If you don't want your friend to know about your surgery, you will probably need to make a cover story if she notices you're tired and can't eat a lot of things. 5) Booze is a no-no for the first year. You may have to come up with an excuse if you are asked to join in a toast. The easiest excuse I can think of is to claim that you're on a new medication that doesn't jive well with "the sauce" If you're well enough, I say do it! But keep in mind you will need to plan ahead and anticipate that you're still going to be in the early stages of recovery and the trip will have some unique challenges because of it. Thanks BB I made up my mind to tell her, she might hate me for it but I prefer to tell her so she can find another maid of honor, I was taking the place of her sister who passed away  |
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Post by lovy19 on Jan 23, 2012 18:34:58 GMT -5
Of course, it would make the trip much easier in general if you tell her the truth. If she is truly your best friend, she will support you in your decision. If she condemns you for choosing a better life for yourself, the trip may not be worth the trouble of maintaining such a "friend". Hi Vangy, your right I decided to just tell her the truth and deal with whatever she says which I know will be very bad. |
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Post by lovy19 on Jan 23, 2012 18:35:51 GMT -5
I felt totally normal with the exception of not being able to eat as much within a week. I had some complications later on due to hormones but had that not happened, I would definitely been able to travel. Hi Sunday ty for your feedback. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2012 19:02:41 GMT -5
With an uncomplicated recovery you should be fine. Just remember that not all recoveries are uncomplicated and you might find yourself in a bit of a pickle.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2012 19:04:19 GMT -5
Aww thanks Gail for your feedback, youre right I'm going to tell her and pray she don't get too pissed off. If she gets pissed off about you saving your life, it might be time to reconsider the friendship. Better to do that reconsidering now than after you've spent a bundle on her wedding. |
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Post by Girlrocker on Jan 23, 2012 19:04:20 GMT -5
It is going to depend on your recovery. If you have no complications you should be fine. BUT.... Keep in mind that the DS recovery takes an entire year- it is a slow, gradual process. Even though your incisions will heal and you might be mobile after a month, there are other things to consider: 1) The food stage your stomach is able to tolerate. If you travel, you may not be able to find food that your stomach can tolerate. You may have to bring protein shakes with you. At the wedding reception you have a hard time finding foods that won't irritate your tummy. 2) Weakness and fatigue! This is common in the first few months, you may tire very quickly. 3) Poop! Your intestines will be confused by all the changes and your poop cycle might not stabilize until later on 4) If you don't want your friend to know about your surgery, you will probably need to make a cover story if she notices you're tired and can't eat a lot of things. 5) Booze is a no-no for the first year. You may have to come up with an excuse if you are asked to join in a toast. The easiest excuse I can think of is to claim that you're on a new medication that doesn't jive well with "the sauce" If you're well enough, I say do it! But keep in mind you will need to plan ahead and anticipate that you're still going to be in the early stages of recovery and the trip will have some unique challenges because of it. Thanks BB I made up my mind to tell her, she might hate me for it but I prefer to tell her so she can find another maid of honor, I was taking the place of her sister who passed away I pretty much would have written what BB did, with the caveat it also depends on the relationship with your BFF. It's very sad she lost her sister, and she will definitely be sad if she can't have you there, if you've decided to not go. But this is a HUGE step in your life, so important. And if she isn't really sad but selfish, hates you for telling her, and can only think of herself and her wedding, definitely not someone you'd want to go to a lot of trouble for, because traveling will be doable, but it won't be simple. |
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Post by supershae on Jan 23, 2012 20:01:03 GMT -5
Yeah I would be very careful! That's close! I'm going to be traveling to TX in early March to see my father and I'm nervous too and that is when I'm 3 months out!  Just be careful! |
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Post by beth28 on Jan 23, 2012 22:04:45 GMT -5
I didn't fly in a plane, but my surgery was on Nov 28th, and hubby and I drove to see his family in Florida on Dec 22nd. It was a 12 hour drive. We planned ahead (and with my surgeons ok) and made frequent stops to walk and prevent blood clots. I also flexed my legs alot between stops. Apart from being very tired, I made the trip there and back just fine.
I also recovered from the drive very quickly. One night of good sleep, and I was fine the next day. Good luck.
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Post by bb212 on Jan 23, 2012 22:55:07 GMT -5
It is going to depend on your recovery. If you have no complications you should be fine. BUT.... Keep in mind that the DS recovery takes an entire year- it is a slow, gradual process. Even though your incisions will heal and you might be mobile after a month, there are other things to consider: 1) The food stage your stomach is able to tolerate. If you travel, you may not be able to find food that your stomach can tolerate. You may have to bring protein shakes with you. At the wedding reception you have a hard time finding foods that won't irritate your tummy. 2) Weakness and fatigue! This is common in the first few months, you may tire very quickly. 3) Poop! Your intestines will be confused by all the changes and your poop cycle might not stabilize until later on 4) If you don't want your friend to know about your surgery, you will probably need to make a cover story if she notices you're tired and can't eat a lot of things. 5) Booze is a no-no for the first year. You may have to come up with an excuse if you are asked to join in a toast. The easiest excuse I can think of is to claim that you're on a new medication that doesn't jive well with "the sauce" If you're well enough, I say do it! But keep in mind you will need to plan ahead and anticipate that you're still going to be in the early stages of recovery and the trip will have some unique challenges because of it. Thanks BB I made up my mind to tell her, she might hate me for it but I prefer to tell her so she can find another maid of honor, I was taking the place of her sister who passed away Good luck, I hope she understands. It's really hard to make a commitment like being a MOH for a wedding abroad when you don't know what your state of health will be, not to mention having to hide evidence of your surgery and coping with the early recovery issues with energy/food sensitivity/confused bowels. |
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Post by kyal on Jan 24, 2012 5:56:51 GMT -5
I traveled to have my VSG done and flew back home 28 days later, it was only a 1.5 your flight though. I had complications, still had drains in place and my surgery was an open procedure. I was still in a bit of pain and unhappy because I had tubes hanging out of me but I made it. Had I not had complications and drains I think I would have been better. If it was Lap I would have been 100% to fly.
Is your surgery Open or Lap? If its Lap I would say you should be fine by 3 months for the flight. As everyone else mentioned you will have the logistical issues of food and stuff but nothing that can't easily be accommodated.
My guess is because its you, your friend will be fine with your surgery decision. Also don't forget to take preventative measures while flying for DVT.
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Post by mark540 on Jan 24, 2012 9:44:06 GMT -5
For those of us who had surgery out of the country, we traveled within two weeks of our surgery date, so it's not like it can't be done. But it will be hard, and it was certainly painful at two weeks out. If you decide to go, make sure you bring whatever you plan to eat because at that stage, airplanes and airports are not very food friendly. I know in the U.S. they recently started allowing you to bring food through security as long as you run it through the machine with your other carry-ons, although that may not cover all airlines or all airports. You can ask your surgeon to give you an early admission letter or pass or something, as well, so you can board first and use a wheelchair if needed. That helps a little. If you are traveling by plane you can usually find a place in the airport to get a scrambled egg or some yogurt while waiting. I used to go to the McDonalds at the airports for these items since we were not able to bring in food at various points in time due to TSA regulations. When you are a bit further out most have a sandwich joint where you can but some lunch meat or sliced cheese. |
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Post by frankie on Jan 24, 2012 15:22:44 GMT -5
Lovy tell your friend about your surgery. If she is truly your friend she will understand your decision on WLS as she has seen your struggles with weight. Also I would ask Dr. Roslin his opinion about flying out of the country for a wedding. Everyone else has given you great advice as far as eating etc. FYI, at 2 months post op I was exhausted and needed frequent naps.
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Post by lovy19 on Jan 24, 2012 16:32:13 GMT -5
Lovy tell your friend about your surgery. If she is truly your friend she will understand your decision on WLS as she has seen your struggles with weight. Also I would ask Dr. Roslin his opinion about flying out of the country for a wedding. Everyone else has given you great advice as far as eating etc. FYI, at 2 months post op I was exhausted and needed frequent naps. Hi Frankie . I Told her about my surgery and she was so supportive that it scared me, the only reason she said she was upset is because I did not include her on my journey. I was shocked because she speaks so negative when it comes to WLS, anyway she got a cousin to take my place and stated she hope I be ok to travel in June because she is having a huge party in Barbados. I feel so relieved since I told her ;D. |
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Post by Gail R on Jan 24, 2012 16:53:14 GMT -5
I am so glad it worked out for you and your friend. I told all my loved ones ahead of time about the surgery because I needed their support and if they were going to be negative ahead of time-I knew to distance myself. Only my know-it-all sister-in-law kept trying to talk me into a lop band but I decided that it was out of her uninformed concern for me. Still I kept her out of the loop after that.
Enjoy the love and support that your friend can give you. Hopefully you can lean on each other during this huge change that both of you are going through in your lives. ;-)
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Post by sandyv63 on Jan 24, 2012 16:55:46 GMT -5
I am really glad you decided not to go because my concern was what if you had a medical emergency in a foreign country unfamiliar with your surgery? God forbid, but it could happen. It just isn't worth risking your life over!
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Post by pattyl1 on Jan 24, 2012 17:32:11 GMT -5
You should be fine. If you have a normal recovery.
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Post by valgroce on Jan 24, 2012 17:50:49 GMT -5
April should be fine for travel, but I wouldn't expect your dress to fit very well. It will be near impossibile to determine what size you'll need
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Post by bb212 on Jan 24, 2012 18:06:44 GMT -5
Lovy tell your friend about your surgery. If she is truly your friend she will understand your decision on WLS as she has seen your struggles with weight. Also I would ask Dr. Roslin his opinion about flying out of the country for a wedding. Everyone else has given you great advice as far as eating etc. FYI, at 2 months post op I was exhausted and needed frequent naps. Hi Frankie . I Told her about my surgery and she was so supportive that it scared me, the only reason she said she was upset is because I did not include her on my journey. I was shocked because she speaks so negative when it comes to WLS, anyway she got a cousin to take my place and stated she hope I be ok to travel in June because she is having a huge party in Barbados. I feel so relieved since I told her ;D. OMG! That is freaking AWESOME! Glad it worked out and that she understood! |
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