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Post by Elsa The Great on Jan 9, 2012 23:37:26 GMT -5
Only 3.5 days till revision. I'm getting overwhelmed by tons of emotions...
~~ Frustrated by the fistulas & that my pouch stretched enough to need correction.
~~ Embarrassed that I must have really made bad choices to stretch my pouch.
~~ Guilt that I'm putting my family thru the stress of another surgery.
~~ Excited that I get another chance to be healthy.
~~ Relieved that they found a medical reason for my regain.
~~ Stress over the financial stress of short term disability only paying 70%
I know some of these feelings contradict others but I'm feeling them all & then some!
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Post by clpeltz on Jan 10, 2012 7:46:20 GMT -5
It's ok to feel what you are feeling and completely normal. Please don't let the guilt eat you up. Pouches can stretch for no reason, other than to stretch. I remember the summer after I had my RNY surgery and being made to feel guilty and at fault for an enlarged pouch. I was only a couple of months out, but had not been able to eat anything and was having trouble keeping fluids down. I was in the hospital for dehydration and they did an xray with contrast. It only showed that the pouch was enlarged (probably from my constant throwing up). The Dr. eluded to me eating too much. I told him that I had not been eating anything...barely drinking anything...how can this be my fault. I continued to have problems for several more months before they decided to humor me and let me have an EGD. It showed that I had a stricture at the stoma that was smaller than a pencil eraser. No wonder I couldn't eat or barely drink...HA! Anyway, it is not your fault. I am glad that they are able to fix this for you. Good luck on your surgery.
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Post by Girlrocker on Jan 10, 2012 9:39:17 GMT -5
I'd say any of us could probably relate to that range :-) One of the best things I've read was someone who noted if we were talking about a heart bypass or something similar, we wouldn't think twice (in terms of picking ourselves apart), we'd get the surgery fixed. There's no question there's a personal responsibility/accountability involved with any weight loss surgery, because it's a tool - we have to do the rest of the work. But that's not what your issues are; the financial strain of disability at 70% is real. But try to focus most on number 4 of your list, hands down it's the best thing of all - a chance to get to the finish line, be healthy. None of us do this wanting to have surgery again, but it happens, and you are going to come out the other side!
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Post by highlyblessed on Apr 11, 2012 23:58:24 GMT -5
I can relate, as I too have 3 days to go. I feel like I'm nesting for a new baby.  |
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Post by pktwatch on Apr 12, 2012 9:54:19 GMT -5
It will all be OK, just you wait and see!
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Post by larra on Apr 12, 2012 10:18:08 GMT -5
Studies have shown that the pouch size doesn't correlate to inadequate weight loss or to weight regain with gastric bypass - in other words, the pouch is going to stretch, to some extent, in everyone, and you can find both successful and not so successful people with the same pouch size. You did NOTHING to stretch your pouch, and you sure as hell didn't cause yourself to have fistulas.
This is probably why the endoscopic procedures to make the stretched out pouch smaller again don't work.
Now, stoma size does seem to matter. If the stoma is too large, food just falls out of the pouch into the intestines, and the patient experiences frequent hunger and possibly reactive hypoglycemia as well. These are causes of weight regain, and again, not subject to your control. But if the stoma is too small, you have a stricture and can't eat. But almost every person I've encountered who wants a revision to their gastric bypass gets blamed by their surgeon or their insurer or both for being noncompliant when in reality, the "tool" is broken. And after a lifetime of self blame, people are quick to accept the blame yet again.
So bottom line, stop blaming yourself. You have a broken tool. While there are certainly people who do well with gastric bypass, the failure rate is substantial, and often not related to anything the patient did wrong.
Best of luck with your revision!!
Larra
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Post by ragamuffinb on Apr 13, 2012 9:58:03 GMT -5
You're in Ft Worth? Who's doing your revision? And what revision are you doing?
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Post by Girlrocker on Apr 13, 2012 12:04:23 GMT -5
You're in Ft Worth? Who's doing your revision? And what revision are you doing? Elsa, have been wondering same, since this was posted in January, wondering how you are! |
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Post by Joanne on Apr 13, 2012 12:55:13 GMT -5
Studies have shown that the pouch size doesn't correlate to inadequate weight loss or to weight regain with gastric bypass - in other words, the pouch is going to stretch, to some extent, in everyone, and you can find both successful and not so successful people with the same pouch size. You did NOTHING to stretch your pouch, and you sure as hell didn't cause yourself to have fistulas. This is probably why the endoscopic procedures to make the stretched out pouch smaller again don't work. Now, stoma size does seem to matter. If the stoma is too large, food just falls out of the pouch into the intestines, and the patient experiences frequent hunger and possibly reactive hypoglycemia as well. These are causes of weight regain, and again, not subject to your control. But if the stoma is too small, you have a stricture and can't eat. But almost every person I've encountered who wants a revision to their gastric bypass gets blamed by their surgeon or their insurer or both for being noncompliant when in reality, the "tool" is broken. And after a lifetime of self blame, people are quick to accept the blame yet again. So bottom line, stop blaming yourself. You have a broken tool. While there are certainly people who do well with gastric bypass, the failure rate is substantial, and often not related to anything the patient did wrong. Best of luck with your revision!! Larra Exalt, Larra. I wish more people, and surgeons, would understand this. |
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Post by goodkel on Apr 15, 2012 19:38:41 GMT -5
Studies have shown that the pouch size doesn't correlate to inadequate weight loss or to weight regain with gastric bypass - in other words, the pouch is going to stretch, to some extent, in everyone, and you can find both successful and not so successful people with the same pouch size. You did NOTHING to stretch your pouch, and you sure as hell didn't cause yourself to have fistulas. This is probably why the endoscopic procedures to make the stretched out pouch smaller again don't work. Now, stoma size does seem to matter. If the stoma is too large, food just falls out of the pouch into the intestines, and the patient experiences frequent hunger and possibly reactive hypoglycemia as well. These are causes of weight regain, and again, not subject to your control. But if the stoma is too small, you have a stricture and can't eat. But almost every person I've encountered who wants a revision to their gastric bypass gets blamed by their surgeon or their insurer or both for being noncompliant when in reality, the "tool" is broken. And after a lifetime of self blame, people are quick to accept the blame yet again. So bottom line, stop blaming yourself. You have a broken tool. While there are certainly people who do well with gastric bypass, the failure rate is substantial, and often not related to anything the patient did wrong. Best of luck with your revision!! Larra Beautifully explained! *exalt* |
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Post by Girlrocker on Apr 20, 2012 9:57:59 GMT -5
Studies have shown that the pouch size doesn't correlate to inadequate weight loss or to weight regain with gastric bypass - in other words, the pouch is going to stretch, to some extent, in everyone, and you can find both successful and not so successful people with the same pouch size. You did NOTHING to stretch your pouch, and you sure as hell didn't cause yourself to have fistulas. This is probably why the endoscopic procedures to make the stretched out pouch smaller again don't work. Now, stoma size does seem to matter. If the stoma is too large, food just falls out of the pouch into the intestines, and the patient experiences frequent hunger and possibly reactive hypoglycemia as well. These are causes of weight regain, and again, not subject to your control. But if the stoma is too small, you have a stricture and can't eat. But almost every person I've encountered who wants a revision to their gastric bypass gets blamed by their surgeon or their insurer or both for being noncompliant when in reality, the "tool" is broken. And after a lifetime of self blame, people are quick to accept the blame yet again. So bottom line, stop blaming yourself. You have a broken tool. While there are certainly people who do well with gastric bypass, the failure rate is substantial, and often not related to anything the patient did wrong. Best of luck with your revision!! Larra Beautifully explained! *exalt* And ditto, an exalt for you and your eloquence and clarity. As soon as I can again, after exalting Goodkel  |
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