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Post by wanttolose on Mar 21, 2012 14:46:12 GMT -5
I have posted this before but now that my VSG is weeks away and I need to make money transfers and such, I am even more scared than in the before posts. I am having lots of people saying that I have lost lots and should just keep going like that, I don't really need surgery and all that crap. That doesn't phase me much although my very very loose clothes are kind of making me ask myself if doing this for 70 lbs is reasonable. I am just really scared of the surgery itself, of pain and of feeling unwell. I don't like to feel unwell... At the same time I don't want to back out either....
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Post by redbabe08 on Mar 21, 2012 14:51:49 GMT -5
your going to have to put those people & their comments out of your head.
i had my lap band with less than 70lbs to lose & when i revised - i was at a normal BMI.....but wasn't willing to gain because my band slipped & caused other injuries.
expect to feel unwell & plan accordingly. that few days vs having lost the excess weight is WELL worth it.
be positive !!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2012 15:36:35 GMT -5
Dittoing Redbabe.
You may be like some that could possibly lose the remainder by yourself, but can you keep it off w/o the extra help? I can tell you, I really, really appreciate the feeling of being satisfied and happy on the amount of food I can eat now vs the times I've done it alone (and regained.) It's still work, but it's not fighting quite the same battle as it once was!
You will feel crappy for a little while, but it passes..
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2012 18:41:38 GMT -5
I have posted this before but now that my VSG is weeks away and I need to make money transfers and such, I am even more scared than in the before posts. I am having lots of people saying that I have lost lots and should just keep going like that, I don't really need surgery and all that crap. That doesn't phase me much although my very very loose clothes are kind of making me ask myself if doing this for 70 lbs is reasonable. I am just really scared of the surgery itself, of pain and of feeling unwell. I don't like to feel unwell... At the same time I don't want to back out either.... The pain and ickiness of surgery is brief in comparison to the rest of your life. You're looking (assuming a normal progression, of course) at a few weeks of pain/discomfort at most and a couple of months of possible feeling unwell. Now, if you are going to consider living on a few tablespoons of food at a time "feeling unwell," then that could be a problem, yes. But in general, you're going to be all healed from the surgery in 8 weeks tops. Okay, so you've lost thirty pounds and that is marvelous. Since your goal is 110 I assume you're a petite little thing . So you are not doing this for 70 pounds, you're doing it for 110 pounds, which is what you had to lose in total. Why call it the whole amount? Simple: Because fat people can't keep weight off. How many times have you lost thirty or forty pounds in your life and gained it back? How many times have you reached a normal weight and stayed there for even a year? Listen, the time comes when you have to quit listening to the whole world yapping at you. You have to get sure within yourself about what you're going to do and then go do it and to hell with what the rest of the world thinks. They don't have to live in your body. Only you can know if you are ready to do this. If you're ready, move forward. If you aren't, cancel your surgery date. It really is that simple. But let me ask you this: How bad does your obesity and the related disease progression have to get before it's "bad enough"? I highly recommend NOT waiting as long as I did, because you might not get as lucky as I did.
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Post by bearmom on Mar 21, 2012 20:05:08 GMT -5
Surgery is always frightening. Try to look at the long term picture. Can you lose and maintain forever? Will you gain, lose, gain, lose etc only to make your future health worse overall?
I don't think anyone gets surgery until they come to terms that they can't lose and maintain it on their own, forever.
Once you have done your research, no one knows better than you what is best for you. Be confident in your research, and how well you know your body, and know you are doing what is right for you.
It's hard, but you have to tune them out.
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Post by grdngrl on Mar 21, 2012 23:53:07 GMT -5
I felt the same way, and had a little buyers remorse shortly afterwards but I recovered quickly and at 3 months out, I am grateful for the "help" the sleeve provides. The reduction of hunger alone really helps and I'm glad I didn't back out.
My biggest issue was that I couldn't gulp water but drinking has gotten way better - it really is a short period of time. Good luck with your decision, IMHO you are normal to have some nervousness about it.
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Post by wanttolose on Mar 22, 2012 4:22:49 GMT -5
I talked to the clinique and anesthesiologist as well as the surgeon who will be assisting and it was very reassuring and felt real. He said I don't need to do another blood test nor do I need to come in the day before or for any other appointment. The surgery is actually scheduled on April 27th in the afternoon so I am coming in the morning. I am not cancelling but I am afraid I will have to live with myself and being scared right up to probably when I will have healed! And yes, everything you all say is true. I have never lost 30 lbs before. I have never lost, gained, lost and gained more than 10 lbs at a time. The trend has just been up up and up...and yes, I am, was, tiny... 5 ft nothing. Size 5 shoes. Just big boobs naturally, before weight gain! I have not been at normal weight since May 1995.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 23, 2012 8:25:24 GMT -5
surgery is scary - only an idiot wouldn't see there is always a risk - but it's going to be so worth it!
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Post by wanttolose on Mar 23, 2012 13:30:30 GMT -5
Good! Its official then! I am not an idiot and I will not cancel...what's another month of a little anxiety?! I will survive it!
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Post by lwtg1369 on Apr 8, 2012 11:30:46 GMT -5
I talked to the clinique and anesthesiologist as well as the surgeon who will be assisting and it was very reassuring and felt real. He said I don't need to do another blood test nor do I need to come in the day before or for any other appointment. The surgery is actually scheduled on April 27th in the afternoon so I am coming in the morning. I am not cancelling but I am afraid I will have to live with myself and being scared right up to probably when I will have healed! And yes, everything you all say is true. I have never lost 30 lbs before. I have never lost, gained, lost and gained more than 10 lbs at a time. The trend has just been up up and up...and yes, I am, was, tiny... 5 ft nothing. Size 5 shoes. Just big boobs naturally, before weight gain! I have not been at normal weight since May 1995. I can SO relate! I'm so nervous for the actual surgery, and the recovery.....but I am MORE excited for the permanent change this will bring to my life, and even more excited for the results, more energy I'm also on 5 feet tall, and love the BMI charts that say I should weigh between 98 lb - 108 lbs. I also am very large chested naturally (even when I lost 45 lbs before on Atkins....the boobs never went anywhere!!), But I would never want to get down to the skinny those charts say I should be. I'm also very naturally muscular, and I was that light, I think I would look scary! I would be over joyed to be 120 - 130....still 10 - 15 lbs overweight, but comfortable...in my clothes, and in my skin..... Try to let the excitement of your future self after surgery outweigh your fears of the procedure.
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Post by highlyblessed on Apr 8, 2012 15:59:01 GMT -5
It's good to know others have jitters too. But I know it will be worth it in the end. Best of luck on your journey. Never mind the naysayers comments. Some may have good intentions but only you know what's best for YOU.
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Post by wanttolose on Apr 9, 2012 10:51:42 GMT -5
Thnx everyone! 18 more days.... The jitters are still here but I am moving forward.
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