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Post by susan1219 on Feb 7, 2012 13:24:24 GMT -5
For lunch, I add a few pickles and a small slice of turkey lunch meat and a small slice of roast beef lunch meat. I am a month post-op....why do I feel guilty? Even though I know I did not overfill my pouch, psychologically I feel like I over ate...even though I didn't....
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Post by hala2215 on Feb 7, 2012 19:10:06 GMT -5
They did surgery on our stomach, not the head.
Almost 4 years post op and at goal - I still feel uneasy when I eat what I think is "too much". Event though I know I need to, and I do not need to "lose weight".
But maintenance is difficult. Need to eat enough to maintain, not too little so I do not lose anymore, but not too much so I do not gain. grrrr...
Some days I think losing was easier... I just did not eat enough to maintain... and as long as I got all my proteins.. (100 +) I did not care if I ate enough...And at the beginning - I could not really eat too much without getting sick.
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Post by susan1219 on Feb 7, 2012 19:28:23 GMT -5
Yep, I feel guilty for eating even though I know I have to eat. That sounds complicated to maintain like that. I guess you still have to monitor everything you eat.
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Post by So Blessed on Feb 8, 2012 8:53:31 GMT -5
Yep, I feel guilty for eating even though I know I have to eat. That sounds complicated to maintain like that. I guess you still have to monitor everything you eat. To a certain degree you do. I don't track every single calorie or count protein grams any more, but I am more mindful of what I put into my mouth. If I start grazing or eating junk, I gain weight. |
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Post by Brandilynn on Feb 8, 2012 9:21:24 GMT -5
I do still track and I use Diet Power. I punch in all my nutritional stats and my exercise, and my every day weight and have told it I want to weigh X by 2 years from now (I put a lower than I want to be weight, and that kind of makes it so if I have splurge days, I am not walking such a sharp edge of balance that it throws me off) and it still really helps.
Case in point, if I did not track, I probably would not know that when I am active I need up to 2500 calories to maintain. Also I would not know where to start my calories, especially just recently when I ripped my calf muscle so Zumba was not on my list of things "to do." But, DP has all my information in there, it knows my metabolic needs and so I relied on it to feed me the amount of calories I was going to need. Also, right before I ripped my calf, I had come back from visiting my mama for a few days. I came back 15 pounds heavier than I left (on the scale, so could have been 5 pounds of salt water taffy in my gut and mango margaritas on my hips :} ) but see, I also needed DP to help me drop my calories REASONABLY without freaking and trying to go back to insane 600 to 800 (at nearly 3 years out with 500 of my calories HAVING to come from protein shakes, you can see the redonkulousness of that) and/or have anxiety about is it enough cals, not enough cals?
But that is how it works best for me! I get not everyone cares to do it, but for me its reasonable, like balancing my check book, and when/if I am injured, or need to gain or lose, I do not have to just whip caloric numbers outtamyAzz, I have experiential proof of what I need to lose/gain/maintain.
My relationship with food is/has been too broken for me to try and be intuative about my eating. I know some folks do great! But that's how it is for me.
And you know, its not good and its not bad, its just the way I am!! And that's okiedoke! ESPECIALLY because I do not have to attach "feelings" to whether I eat or do not eat or am I eating too much, too little, et cetera.
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Post by mo on Feb 8, 2012 9:52:30 GMT -5
My relationship with food is/has been too broken for me to try and be intuative about my eating. I know some folks do great! But that's how it is for me. Exactly how I feel! Very well said. |
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Post by lynn22 on Feb 27, 2012 9:32:09 GMT -5
For lunch, I add a few pickles and a small slice of turkey lunch meat and a small slice of roast beef lunch meat. I am a month post-op....why do I feel guilty? Even though I know I did not overfill my pouch, psychologically I feel like I over ate...even though I didn't.... It's not unusual for us to feel this way as "newbies"--I remember posting about the same topic, and as I listed my dinner (...3 long green beans...) I realizes how little I'd actually eaten and started to laugh. Fortunately, another longtimer reassured me, too. Enjoy your new life!  |
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Post by Ladytaz on Feb 27, 2012 14:21:26 GMT -5
Isn't it funny that when I should have felt guilty about what I was eating, when I was eating uncontrollably, I didn't give it a thought, and then when I was eating healthier then I had in years and I felt bad about it? I learned not to feel guilty about doing a natural, body function. I don't feel guilty about breathing, do I? Why should I feel guilty about eating, something I need to do to survive. Now if I were eating self destructively, like I have been known to do in the past, then I have something to feel bad about, but not when I am putting healthy, nourishing food in my body, even if it was a bite or two "too much". Sometimes I just need to give myself a reality check.
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Post by MEZ on Mar 5, 2012 15:09:09 GMT -5
I ate a half cup of soup early on, instead of a quarter cup, and was certain I'd gain weight. Definitely our head's are still not with this program! You're doing fine.
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Post by mark540 on Mar 5, 2012 15:43:01 GMT -5
I feel guilt at times probably because I remember what I went through to get to this point and I don't want to return to where I was.
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Post by highlyblessed on Jun 27, 2012 2:34:42 GMT -5
I can totally relate to the food mind games. You're doing good so far, just keep it up and hopefully your mind will take a lesson from your leadership.
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