New smell?

[meq815]

Had a serious talk with hubby this morning. The cuddling is gone. He says I smell different. Not the gas, farting, it's not ketosis. He can't explain it, just that I smell different than I used to. Keep in mind, I'm a girly girl. Clean, shower daily, use all the same lotions and potions (and deodorant) that I always have. I don't smell any difference. Has anyone else experienced this? We were the couple that prided ourselves on sleeping together in a twin bed, we slept so close. I'm so upset.

[Leonie]

Here is a big hug for you.
Keep loving on him, I firmly believe that he will be unable to resist.

[west4thavenue]

I don't have any answers, but I am trying to think out loud here, Mary Ellen. How long has it been since he first noticed the change? Any recent changes to medications? The only thing I can think that has been different for you in the recent past is that you've been under a lot of stress and I think you said you had a job change. Could there be anything in the workplace that is affecting this?

Barring any concrete answer, my only suggestion for now is that maybe it's a good time to change your lotions and potions (and deodorant) and find something new that appeals to both of you. Take him with you to the department store and pick out a new fragrance. I am as baffled as you must be. No doubt your husband is, too. Please try not to be upset, although I can understand why you feel upset. I think this is something you can work with, or perhaps just a temporary change.

It could possibly be a change with your husband, too...my sense of taste and smell have been very different since I had surgery. Things I used to like don't smell nice to me anymore.

[newyorkbitch]

Oh boy, that is so hard.

I think there are all kinds of changes that happen that could account for this. I bet the huge hormonal shifts could have an effect, and also the way your sweat reacts to different skin fold sizes…maybe you sweat less in some places…

And also maybe some of it is psychological - your body is different, where he buries his face in you is different…it's all just different.

Eventually he will get used to you again, it is a huge adjustment for you and for him.

Hang in there.

[OnMyWay2Thin]

Awww Mary Ellen, hang in there. There are some great suggestions already posted. Leonie is right, Monica is, too! By the way, Bath and Body Works have some great new stuff out for fall. NYB, as always, also gave some real reasons this may be, good insight. Don't be mad and try not to be upset, this will work out!

Kelly

[goodkel]

Some drugs can make you smell different. Topamax for migraines is one.

Have you added any new vitamin supplement/s or changed brands? Have you added anything new to your diet?

Kidney and liver problems can do it as can some diseases.

Omega-3 in fish oil form can do it.

If you have ruled out everything you are ingesting, you should see your doctor.

I hope this resolves quickly and easily for you.

[mistercy]

What everyone else said here, Mary Ellen - see if there is a food, vitamin, or something something that changed recently that may have created an olfactory effect. Similar issues for me and my wife because of my frequent gas, even with regular use of Devrom. I often won't go near the bedroom if I am feeling backed up and gassy. Also, is it something that is only noticeable to him, or is it something others have noticed as well? May have to have more talks with DH - everyone goes through hormonal changes through their lives, and maybe there is a way to roll with it - a la perfume, or maybe there is some sort of de-scenting body spray, the same way Ozium neutralizes bathroom odors.

[bboop]

You have gotten some great ideas. I, personally don't have anything else to offer.

I think NYCbitch mentioned your overall changes. This could be affecting your husband's impression of you. You may not have a different smell at all...it could be just a different physical feel. I would talk to him about it. If you two are close, then talking is the best recipe for resolving any issue.

I wish you the best. Remember he loves you and you love him...you guys can work it out.

Here's a cyber hug for good measure.

[Girlrocker]

Ohhh, I'm so sorry I don't have anything I can offer that's better than the lovely things said here. I suspect, too, it might be an overall adjustment to the newer you. I believe you can work together through this!

[fullhousemom]

Any chance its the bed sheets? I have heard people make comments about it being very difficult to get that gassy smell out of their bedding and clothing. Maybe the smell resides in the fabrics?

Best of luck to you. I am sure it is something you can work out!

[meq815]

Thank you all for the kind words and suggestions. I launder the linens at least weekly, Windows are wide open this time of year. I've started using body powder before bed (you know, like Grandmom's, complete with the puff), and intstalled a Scentsy on my bedside table. I spray the sheets and comforter daily with linen spray. I know you think it must reek like a bordello, but it doesn't. All light, floral/fruity scents. I need my man back.

[newyorkbitch]

Are you two seeing a therapist? You might want to consider getting some counseling. Sounds to me like maybe it's not really the smell issue. Many couples have difficulty managing transitions, get some help.

[Deleted]

Ladies, I believe that some of these threads are better off with just the women giving advice to each other and maybe sometimes, the men to the men……but, when you said that one thing,
“I need my man back”, it just melted my heart and I had to chime in! If my wife told me that….I would completely be enslaved in her love all over again. Just tell him exactly that because as a man, it almost made me cry……just sayin

[newyorkbitch]

Are you sure he likes all of those scents?

[meq815]

Thx robs. Crying.
NYB, I guess I'll find out.

[Deleted]

Are you taking a B-Complex vitamin? Those made my smell different. I reeked in the morning, and sometimes I could smell it coming out of me. I had the same problem for a bit. and at about the same point in my journey (around 6 months out). I chnaged how I took my b's, and after a few months, the smell went away, and i was normal again.

Have faith, I think it is just an adjustment phase by your body. I think you will return to normal soon.

[meq815]

Thx Marc. The only b I take is biotin. And it's a fruity chewy.
I think it's his issue. We're working on it.