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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 13, 2014 22:40:46 GMT -5
Man I can't believe I'm already failing and it's only been 1 day. I sipped and I walked and I sipped and I walked. . Than I passed out from exhaustion fir 3 hrs. At the end of the day I didn't meet my goals. . 35 oz of water not 60 58 grams of protein (that one is good)
I had to sneak in more liquid at the end of the day to get over 30 and I drank 4 oz in 1 hr and it made me horrendously sick. I guess just carrying my water and sipping sipping sipping isn't good enough to get it all in for me.. Anyone out there got any tricks on getting more in... how much do you think is safe to drink at 1 time.. i get easily distracted and apparently my sips are to small. I was thinking of maybe doing like 1 oz shots at the top of every hr and than sips the rest.. Do you think 1 oz is too much to drink at 1 time.. I couldn't believe 4 oz in 1 hr made me soo sick. I need to do better tomorrow. 1 good thing is I did get all my vitamins In. Plus I weighted myself. I vowed I was not going to weight myself I was going to see what I weighted at my Checkup. I felt that horrible pressure just like in 2000 after my bypass. I vowed I was going to be calm and just let the process work.. but i failed and weighted myself (4 tines just to be safe).. maybe I might have to ask my husband to move the scale to his office to make it harder to weigh myself. . Oh well tomorrow is another chance to do better
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Post by maggiesara on Jul 13, 2014 23:16:02 GMT -5
Sweetie, you have GOT to cut yourself some slack, and by "some," I mean a metric buttload. You are JUST home from the hospital. It may well take a month for you to be comfortable getting in all your fluids and protein and vitamins, and THAT'S OK. You are not a "failure" because you were not able to do everything the first day back. FWIW, I didn't take any supplements -- NONE -- for three months after my surgery. I was incredibly sick, and I was terrified of stuff making me sicker. I don't recommend that course of action at all, but I can tell you that I did start taking my vitamins, and by the time I had four-months bloodworm done, all my numbers were good.
So give yourself a break, hunh? You seem to have made it awfully easy to see yourself as a screw-up.
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Post by bboop on Jul 14, 2014 0:14:46 GMT -5
Ditto what Maggisera said. You are so new...first of all you can count jello, popciciyes, soup anything that is liquifies in your mouth at this point as liquid. I'm glad that you are concentrating on liquids...that's great but you have a long way to go. Getting in all your liquids this early is not going to happen. You are supposed to shoot for 64 oz. not make it 64 oz this early out. Keep trying so you don't become dehydrated.
Vitamins...wait a while on those, too. You don't even need to worry until you are at least a month out. I did find that calcium helped slow down the runs...a lot. You know liquid in liquid out. I take calcium petites because they are easier to swallow and to this day I prefer taking them.
Relax...you are doing good. It's ok to feel like shit - you just had major surgery. I would shower, then immediately have to take a nap. It totally exhausted me. You are supposed to sip, walk and rest...don't forget the resting part.
I have a Starbucks insulated glass with a straw...I sip on it all day. I've used these things since the beginning and as my ability to up the intake increased, the cup or glass has been my savior. Some people use sippy cups to help in the beginning...experiment and see what works for you.
I suppose a shot glass would work. Just keep sipping all day a little at a time...don't push your tummy. As for protein a good rule of thumb is 30 grams in 30 days, 60 grams in 60 days, and 90 grams in 90 days. Do what you can. I liked the protein chicken flavored drink that allowed me to get in my protein and liquid at the same time. I could sip on it all day. It's called Unjury...order it online.
Welcome to the dark side...you are doing fine. Relax and rest.
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Post by historytracker on Jul 14, 2014 3:16:14 GMT -5
I agree the soup and the Popsicles can be counted toward your liquids. My doctor required in the beginning 48-64 oz of liquids a day. So in the beginning I was able to do the 48 oz. Now I am up to 64.
Take some nice naps - I still do that myself and I am only 14 days post op.
Good luck and enjoy the DS. I too got on the scale when I got home and I am still excited to get on the scale!
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Post by jpcello on Jul 14, 2014 4:42:46 GMT -5
Cheryl - at one week post op there is only one thing you should be concerning yourself with - water (hydration). Nothing else matters at this point. Forget vitamins for a while and honestly forget about protein too. Build up to 30 grams of protein by 30 days post-op. Same with vitamins.
This is a marathon, not a sprint to see who gets to the finish line first.
If you're faced with drinking water or taking vitamins, drink the water. If you're faced with eating/drinking protein and water, drink the water.
You can't afford to get dehydrated.
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 14, 2014 7:45:26 GMT -5
Sweetie, you have GOT to cut yourself some slack, and by "some," I mean a metric buttload. You are JUST home from the hospital. It may well take a month for you to be comfortable getting in all your fluids and protein and vitamins, and THAT'S OK. You are not a "failure" because you were not able to do everything the first day back. FWIW, I didn't take any supplements -- NONE -- for three months after my surgery. I was incredibly sick, and I was terrified of stuff making me sicker. I don't recommend that course of action at all, but I can tell you that I did start taking my vitamins, and by the time I had four-months bloodworm done, all my numbers were good. So give yourself a break, hunh? You seem to have made it awfully easy to see yourself as a screw-up. Ha ha ha a metric buttload.. that's funny.. Shoot I am my worst critic. Going to try to relax today. I got on the scale this am and it says from day of surgery to today (6 days) I have lost 6 lbs From yesterday to today (1 day) I have lost 3 lbs And another day begins
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Post by mistercy on Jul 14, 2014 8:11:40 GMT -5
Cheryl, will also agree with the others on the board here - during the first week back home, hydration and rest. You will probably experience horrible gas pains, too. I didn't start solid foods for a week or two out from surgery. Note what gives you gas pains - I was sucking down SF popsicles early on, but found that they caused me gas - turns out post surgery, my gut was sensitive to artificial sweeteners, soy, and lactose. It is best to only introduce one new item to your tummy each day to see if it is accepted, or causes digestion problems.
58 grams of protein? That's a lot of protein to get down in the early days. The rule I've seen is 30 grams by 30 days out, 60 by sixty days out, and 90 by 90 days out. How are you getting that protein in? Don't try too many hard foods yet - your stomach just went through a traumatic experience, and is particularly cranky. Drink, rest, and use the incentive spirometer to get the gunk out of your lungs. You probably also have the drains in - remember to empty as needed, and follow the after care protocols. Also, don't sweat the weight thing - trust me, it will come off. I had my stalls early out, but 14 months later and 210 pounds down from my high weight, I now know the DS will do its thing, and you no longer need to stress about every ounce. A lot of our previous life experiences with weight loss go out the window with the DS. A lot of what you learn in time is counterintuitive from traditional dieting. Welcome to The Dark Side!
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Post by caprice on Jul 14, 2014 8:27:31 GMT -5
Sweetie, you have GOT to cut yourself some slack, and by "some," I mean a metric buttload. You are JUST home from the hospital. It may well take a month for you to be comfortable getting in all your fluids and protein and vitamins, and THAT'S OK. You are not a "failure" because you were not able to do everything the first day back. FWIW, I didn't take any supplements -- NONE -- for three months after my surgery. I was incredibly sick, and I was terrified of stuff making me sicker. I don't recommend that course of action at all, but I can tell you that I did start taking my vitamins, and by the time I had four-months bloodworm done, all my numbers were good. So give yourself a break, hunh? You seem to have made it awfully easy to see yourself as a screw-up. Ha ha ha a metric buttload.. that's funny.. Shoot I am my worst critic. Going to try to relax today. I got on the scale this am and it says from day of surgery to today (6 days) I have lost 6 lbs From yesterday to today (1 day) I have lost 3 lbs And another day begins And, for the love of God and all that's holy..... hide the scales! They are NOT a reliable measure of your success. This surgery WILL work, but your body isn't going to "let go" of stuff at a steady pace, so, as self-critical as you seem to be, you're going to be really beating yourself up when you don't see those numbers drop, and there will be times when they don't drop, even if you're not done losing weight. So, pleasepleaseplease get rid of the scales, at least from yourself.
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 14, 2014 9:27:31 GMT -5
Cheryl...what everyone has said! I also empathize that as a revision, you are feeling that much more pressure and anxiety, huge fear at 'failing again'. So breathe. And remember all the good things you already learned having your RNY, they will help you now, the recoveries at this stage are pretty much the same.
Keep it simple - sip, walk, breathe, rest, repeat. Aim for a minimum of 48oz of fluid, use the 30/60/90g protein guide for number of grams to days out from surgery and the only vitamins you have to take right now are multi and calcium citrate. As stressed already, most important to stay hydrated. All the things you did with your RNY will also work now - water, sf popsicles, sf jello, broth soups, anything sf, decaf and non-carbonated, protein shakes. Sip steadily all day long. It will take all day to get your fluid and whatever protein you are trying. Remember that the first 6-8 weeks are just about healing from MAJOR surgery and our RNY to DS revision is about as major as it gets. Baby your new insides like an infant because that's what they are, brand new. DO not weigh more than once a week, if you must, and weigh on the same day/time only. You are now on the first steps to the rest of your healthier life, one day, one week at a time!
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Post by maggiesara on Jul 14, 2014 10:30:16 GMT -5
Cheryl, are you hearing what ANYBODY here is saying?
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 14, 2014 11:56:59 GMT -5
Cheryl, are you hearing what ANYBODY here is saying? Yes.. i do not recall getting in 48 oz of liquids being so hard. I have sipped all day and all night yesterday and only got in the 38 oz of liquid in. The protein I got in cause I make a protein shake with 1 scoop of powder which is 25 grams with 4 oz milk instead of 8. And did that twice. Which makes 58. I probably could have gotten more liquid in if it was just water in the same amount of time. So today I am only going to have 1 protein drink. Everything makes me gassy.. everything I p Swallow I can feel go into my stomach and boats me and my stomach swooshes like a bucket of water. The math just does not add up 4 oz per hr X 12 hrs is 48oz. That's insane. I said I wasn't going to obsess like last time but only 1 day hone an i already feel the pressure. I'm tired and I'm still bloated and I feel like I am drowning in all this water. Everything makes me gassy and I am depressed because I know I am expecting to much from myself and I can't seem to stop it. I don't want people to see me fail again. My stupid husband told his stupid family (who Luckily I never see) so I know all there eyes are on me
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Post by newyorkbitch on Jul 14, 2014 12:01:04 GMT -5
Cut out the dairy for now.
What protein shake are you using?
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 14, 2014 13:17:44 GMT -5
Cut out the dairy for now. What protein shake are you using? One recommend by surgeon .. gnc low carb isopure. .. i have tried it with water b4 surgery and I was good that way.. i just don't see how it can help. I am sitting here stuffed .. i can't sip anything else and I have only had about 20 oz so far. No protein. All water with 1 sf popsicle. Sf popsicle seemed to be easier to take but seems to have made me feel full. Just going to keep trying
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Post by newyorkbitch on Jul 14, 2014 14:07:15 GMT -5
Aim for 30g of protein every day for now, and sip water all. the. time. You can alternate sips - protein, water, protein, water.
Of course you feel full, that is completely normal.
Don't mix the shake with regular milk. Use lactaid. And you can water it down if that helps.
The most important thing is drinking.
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Post by Leonie on Jul 14, 2014 14:44:44 GMT -5
Welcome to the family!
As a revision, you are doing amazingly well. You are right that the fluids is the biggest thing. Try different things... Warm tea, G2, plain water, water with a squeeze of lemon juice, egg drop soup, diluted protein shake, just keep trying. Remember, it is essential to keep your electrolytes in balance. I firmly believe in rehydrating stuff like Pedialyte. I loved the vanilla flavour powder early out. It made the water sit well and it felt like the fluid was doing its job.
It could be that your stomach is still very swollen and the liquid is having a hard time passing through. I was also taking too small sips, but quickly found a comfortable level. It is a good idea to set yourself challenges and keep track of your daily fluids. Soon it will be easier, but most DS'ers can be identified by the drink in their hands.
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 14, 2014 14:46:43 GMT -5
Cheryl, are you hearing what ANYBODY here is saying? Yes.. i do not recall getting in 48 oz of liquids being so hard. I have sipped all day and all night yesterday and only got in the 38 oz of liquid in. The protein I got in cause I make a protein shake with 1 scoop of powder which is 25 grams with 4 oz milk instead of 8. And did that twice. Which makes 58. I probably could have gotten more liquid in if it was just water in the same amount of time. So today I am only going to have 1 protein drink. Everything makes me gassy.. everything I p Swallow I can feel go into my stomach and boats me and my stomach swooshes like a bucket of water. The math just does not add up 4 oz per hr X 12 hrs is 48oz. That's insane. I said I wasn't going to obsess like last time but only 1 day hone an i already feel the pressure. I'm tired and I'm still bloated and I feel like I am drowning in all this water. Everything makes me gassy and I am depressed because I know I am expecting to much from myself and I can't seem to stop it. I don't want people to see me fail again. My stupid husband told his stupid family (who Luckily I never see) so I know all there eyes are on meHon, you must breathe, slow down, give yourself a break from the burden of all this pressure. I can hear the anxiety and stress in your words here. When I say I feel for you as a revision, I really do, this process does have a set of baggage that a first time surgery doesn't. You're articulating what many of us felt and understand - tremendous fear/pressure not to 'fail again'. You're in your first weeks post op, it's no small thing the anesthesia and the havoc it wreaks on the hormones, to what is already a highly charged emotionally and physically trying time. Depression completely normal. That said, knowledge is power, you're in a great place to get that, and all the support you need to get through this. First You don't recall getting in 48oz of water being so hard before because you had an RNY, this time you've had a major revision, your RNY was undone - and this is not a surgery that was meant to be reversed! and then, the DS done. That is an incredible amount of work on your stomach and intestines. You very likely had scar tissue, even adhesions there. This is why he had you NPO your first week, and is taking baby steps with you in terms of progression. 48oz is a minimum, if you got in 38oz you will be ok, it will get better each day. When in doubt about fluid vs. protein, go for the fluid. It WILL take you all day right now to do this, and it might be like this for another week or two, but it WILL get better. For gas, do avoid dairy - use a milk substitute like lactaid, almond or coconut milk instead for your shakes, or stick to water. Walking will help the gas. So will something like Gas-x or just plain simethicone. You can get this in chewables. Second: I know it's easier said then done, but the only eyes that matter right now are YOURS. It's your body, your life you're trying to save. Do not let your family bully or pressure you in any way. That you 'should be feeling_________, you should be losing this much__________' and so on. They don't know anything about the procedures, as you've told us, the differences between them, so they certainly aren't going to have a clue what you are dealing with right now. Listen to what we are saying here, nod and smile at your family as much as possible, change the subject. But try to not let them get to you. Focus on doing what you must to heal: sip, walk, breathe, rest, repeat. It really is that simple for now, and keep venting here!
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 14, 2014 15:39:04 GMT -5
Yes.. i do not recall getting in 48 oz of liquids being so hard. I have sipped all day and all night yesterday and only got in the 38 oz of liquid in. The protein I got in cause I make a protein shake with 1 scoop of powder which is 25 grams with 4 oz milk instead of 8. And did that twice. Which makes 58. I probably could have gotten more liquid in if it was just water in the same amount of time. So today I am only going to have 1 protein drink. Everything makes me gassy.. everything I p Swallow I can feel go into my stomach and boats me and my stomach swooshes like a bucket of water. The math just does not add up 4 oz per hr X 12 hrs is 48oz. That's insane. I said I wasn't going to obsess like last time but only 1 day hone an i already feel the pressure. I'm tired and I'm still bloated and I feel like I am drowning in all this water. Everything makes me gassy and I am depressed because I know I am expecting to much from myself and I can't seem to stop it. I don't want people to see me fail again. My stupid husband told his stupid family (who Luckily I never see) so I know all there eyes are on meHon, you must breathe, slow down, give yourself a break from the burden of all this pressure. I can hear the anxiety and stress in your words here. When I say I feel for you as a revision, I really do, this process does have a set of baggage that a first time surgery doesn't. You're articulating what many of us felt and understand - tremendous fear/pressure not to 'fail again'. You're in your first weeks post op, it's no small thing the anesthesia and the havoc it wreaks on the hormones, to what is already a highly charged emotionally and physically trying time. Depression completely normal. That said, knowledge is power, you're in a great place to get that, and all the support you need to get through this. First You don't recall getting in 48oz of water being so hard before because you had an RNY, this time you've had a major revision, your RNY was undone - and this is not a surgery that was meant to be reversed! and then, the DS done. That is an incredible amount of work on your stomach and intestines. You very likely had scar tissue, even adhesions there. This is why he had you NPO your first week, and is taking baby steps with you in terms of progression. 48oz is a minimum, if you got in 38oz you will be ok, it will get better each day. When in doubt about fluid vs. protein, go for the fluid. It WILL take you all day right now to do this, and it might be like this for another week or two, but it WILL get better. For gas, do avoid dairy - use a milk substitute like lactaid, almond or coconut milk instead for your shakes, or stick to water. Walking will help the gas. So will something like Gas-x or just plain simethicone. You can get this in chewables. Second: I know it's easier said then done, but the only eyes that matter right now are YOURS. It's your body, your life you're trying to save. Do not let your family bully or pressure you in any way. That you 'should be feeling_________, you should be losing this much__________' and so on. They don't know anything about the procedures, as you've told us, the differences between them, so they certainly aren't going to have a clue what you are dealing with right now. Listen to what we are saying here, nod and smile at your family as much as possible, change the subject. But try to not let them get to you. Focus on doing what you must to heal: sip, walk, breathe, rest, repeat. It really is that simple for now, and keep venting here! I feel better today having had no milk. I am taking gas X strips. I am walking. At the rate I am going today I will hit 42 so that's an improvement. I am going to try the protein shake in water just so I get some in that will be 25 so that's close to the 30 for 30 days rule. Sorry for freaking out. Thanks fir the words of encouragement
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 14, 2014 16:40:15 GMT -5
Glad you feel better, and please, you have nothing to apologize about! That's exactly what this place, this group is for! One day at a time, it really is a marathon, and a revision is not a small thing, much different than a virgin surgery, and the DS is a major surgery by itself. So you have a little perspective and it helps you get through some of the rough times. Many other people have had less than supportive families too, it happens, and the most important thing is you keeping your focus, don't let them wear your down, you know why you did this and that's what your efforts are all about - getting well for life.
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Post by teachermomolp on Jul 14, 2014 17:12:21 GMT -5
Cherlybaker- I did not feel good until I eliminated every single ounce of dairy. No lactaid, nothing. You're doing GREAT. I came home from the hospital 10 pounds heavier than I went in- I gained water weight. It comes off. I say go ahead and weigh yourself... and in a few months, you'll stop stressing. You will see that, (almost) NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, you will lose weight. It may not always be like that, but for now, for me, it is. I weighed myself several times a day until I got it through my thick head that the DS WILL WORK. You'll see. So weigh away. Be ready for the 6 week stall- mine last 4 weeks. Since then, slow and steady wins the race! You're doing great!
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 14, 2014 21:26:45 GMT -5
Cherlybaker- I did not feel good until I eliminated every single ounce of dairy. No lactaid, nothing. You're doing GREAT. I came home from the hospital 10 pounds heavier than I went in- I gained water weight. It comes off. I say go ahead and weigh yourself... and in a few months, you'll stop stressing. You will see that, (almost) NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, you will lose weight. It may not always be like that, but for now, for me, it is. I weighed myself several times a day until I got it through my thick head that the DS WILL WORK. You'll see. So weigh away. Be ready for the 6 week stall- mine last 4 weeks. Since then, slow and steady wins the race! You're doing great! Today went much much better. . Kicked out the dairy and managed to get the 48oz of liquids and 25 grams protein. Do you think it is just to early for me fir dairy or do you think I could have developed an intolerance? How long should I wait till I try dairy again? Also it appears I cam get more liquid in faster with the sf pops than with drinking water. . Weird. . Now if this stupid pain on my right side would go away and Thursday hurries up and gets here so I cam get my drain out I will be doing awsome. Got to see my older 4 granddaughters today and it was nice seeing them but sooooo hard not to be able to pick the little 2 up. Had one bad thing today. . My husband had kielbasa for supper. .OMG I SOOOOOOOOOO WANTED TO EAT SOME..yah know we see food ever day everywhere but it has not bothered me but kielbasa omg it smelt sooooo good.. i thought oh maybe I could puree it up and drink it ha ha ha (the thought of that made me sick and cured my desire real fast ha ha ha)
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Post by newyorkbitch on Jul 14, 2014 21:48:48 GMT -5
Lots of DSers become lactose intolerant. For some that goes away, for others (like me) it doesn't.
I'd stay off the dairy for a month and then try VERY LITTLE and see what happens.
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 15, 2014 10:51:53 GMT -5
For whatever reason last night was a nightmare. Pain med didn't help 4 hrs later sleeping pill didn't help. . 4 hrs later more pain med didn't help. . Oddly enough when I got up this am at 9 am I feel much better than I have been feeling. Pain on right side is significantly less. My .3 mile walk around the neighborhood went fast and didn't start feeling any discomfort till I was done. Getting up and down is much easier. 1 week post op and I am almost a normal person. . I know I know no scale. . But i can't help myself. I need reassurance everything is working properly..1 week postperative weight loss 10 lbs.. that's one hell of a lot of weight.
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Post by goodkel on Jul 15, 2014 11:11:25 GMT -5
You are SUPPOSED to feel like a Mack truck hit you and everything SHOULD be a struggle.
That's why you do baby steps. Sip, sip, sip constantly, walk, walk, walk (like to the kitchen and back, to the bathroom, from the family room to the bedroom for your 2nd or 3rd nap of the day), rest, rest, rest.
Don't push yourself. Allow your body to heal at its own pace.
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 15, 2014 15:18:27 GMT -5
You're doing FINE, exactly as expected barely a week post op from an RNY to DS revision. It's a huge surgery, and not surprising at all you feel like crud. I couldn't sleep in my bed for weeks, had to sleep partly upright propped up on my very comfy couch with a lot of pillows for extra support. I got sore in the weirdest places that were compensating for where I was 'leaning' due to my discomfort. At the time I lived in a studio or I would have rented a recliner. I'm looking into that now for my (hoped for approved) hernia/abdominal reconstruction surgery. You had a nice drop your first week! So I hope that helps ease your mind; the anxiety of 'failing a second time will get better if you let it'. Sip, breathe, gentle walks/laps, rest, repeat. Can not stress enough to not overdo or how basic the recovery is, so few/limited food options, requirements to get through the day for now. Plus you don't have a lot of emotional support at home which makes it harder. You're doing all the right things, keep it up!
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 15, 2014 15:37:22 GMT -5
I decided I am just going to try every second of every day to do my best and if I fail so be it a new second comes abs I will keep trying. I figure Eventually I will heal enough to succeed.
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Post by PeteA on Jul 15, 2014 15:50:10 GMT -5
You are so so far away from failing. Take that word out of your vocabulary. Healing and hydration. Let the DS take care of itself for now - you don't have to be pushing to make it work.
If you haven't tried different temperatures on your liquids you might want to do some experimenting. Beef and chicken broth from cubes were the only way I could get in some extra liquids the first month or so. Something about the warmth really helped.
I also remember being amazed at how little liquid I could take in at the start I drank too much more than once before I figured out what I could stand without it hurting or worse.
You are doing great.... pete
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Post by maggiesara on Jul 15, 2014 17:07:47 GMT -5
"I decided I am just going to try every second of every day to do my best"
Years ago, I told my then boyfriend that I was really committed to working out. He said, "How often?" I said, "Every day." And he said, "Hunh....that doesn't leave you much breathing space, does it? I mean, you miss one day, and you're a fuck-up."
You might consider this.
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 15, 2014 17:18:51 GMT -5
I decided I am just going to try every second of every day to do my best and if I fail so be it a new second comes abs I will keep trying. I figure Eventually I will heal enough to succeed. Cheryl you are not in the realm of failing! Believe me, I understand the anxiety going through a revision and the fear of failure, but you are doing fine, you are only barely a week out. Have you ever been in counseling or considered it? It might help get you through the tough transition of having a revision. I have seen a therapist regularly for years, and go for occasional tune-ups when my buttons get pushed. I also take an anti-depressant and as-needed anxiety medication. You are being far too hard on yourself, you're beating yourself up and you need to give yourself a break. I don't know if this is just coming from your or the added pressure your non-supportive/non-understanding family adds. You are healing from a very major surgery, doing all the right things, give yourself time. I'm a little worried about you; you don't have to second guess posting here, or apologize for ANYTHING, everything your writing is OK. But you have a LONG road ahead, there's a lot of trial and error involved, and you can't function like this and be healthy!
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 15, 2014 17:35:07 GMT -5
You are so so far away from failing. Take that word out of your vocabulary. Healing and hydration. Let the DS take care of itself for now - you don't have to be pushing to make it work. If you haven't tried different temperatures on your liquids you might want to do some experimenting. Beef and chicken broth from cubes were the only way I could get in some extra liquids the first month or so. Something about the warmth really helped. I also remember being amazed at how little liquid I could take in at the start I drank too much more than once before I figured out what I could stand without it hurting or worse. You are doing great.... pete Purchased some broth today and going to try it. I hope it helps. Today I over did it physically and am in quite a bit of pain. G going to have to remember even if I feel good I am still healing and over doing it isn't going to help
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 15, 2014 17:38:10 GMT -5
I decided I am just going to try every second of every day to do my best and if I fail so be it a new second comes abs I will keep trying. I figure Eventually I will heal enough to succeed. Cheryl you are not in the realm of failing! Believe me, I understand the anxiety going through a revision and the fear of failure, but you are doing fine, you are only barely a week out. Have you ever been in counseling or considered it? It might help get you through the tough transition of having a revision. I have seen a therapist regularly for years, and go for occasional tune-ups when my buttons get pushed. I'm also take an anti-depressant and as-needed anxiety medication. You are being far too hard on yourself, you're beating yourself up and you need to give yourself a break. I don't know if this is just coming from your or the added pressure your non-supportive/non-understanding family adds. You are healing from a very major surgery, doing all the right things, give yourself time. Last therapist appt was the day b4 surgury. Unfortunately most of this cones from myself. I always have to work harder and try to do better than everyone else.. Unfortunately usually I fail. I keep on trying though. Every journey starts with a single step
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