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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 3, 2014 11:21:04 GMT -5
Ok 5 days till my surgery. . Half the time I'm ready to cancel.. half the time I'm just hyperventilating or crying. . Ha ha ha. . Seriously though. . I am scared to death. Not sure why.. i had none of this before my rny. I just want it to be done and be on the other side and be fine. My granddaughter has not made her appearance yet and my daughter is 3 days late and it's her first and she is freaking cause she wants the kid born before I leave for ny... i probably gained 5 lbs this week from all my stress eating.. my husband looked at me and said what you trying to do eat everything you can't for the next year.. ha ha ha. . Yup I'm freaking out
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 3, 2014 20:22:28 GMT -5
Ah, definitely all very normal pre-op freaking out! I think a revision is particularly hard, we bring that much more baggage to the process, great sense of feeling of failure and all that. I always say, it's hard enough the first time, who goes into this ever thinking they'd have to do it twice?! Try to get on top of your emotions as best you can; you don't have to diet or lose weight before surgery, but it's not bad if it happens and ideally you don't gain any more. I thought of it like training, not dieting, I just wanted to be in the best shape for surgery this second time I could, I wanted to know I was doing everything by the book so there were no 'what ifs'. Just keep coming here, it will help you get through until the surgery day and before you know it, you'll be doing full on grammacare!
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Post by goodkel on Jul 5, 2014 13:08:02 GMT -5
Think about how scary it would be to not have surgery.
Your obesity grinding down your joints, raising your blood pressure, giving you diabetes, stressing your heart to the point of damage.
It is called morbid obesity because it is killing you, pushing you towards an early death.
Sure, there are risks with any surgery, but the morbid part of morbid obesity is a sure thing.
Then think about how much fun it will be when you can run and play with your new grandchild. When you can take her to Chuck E. Cheese and fit in the booth. Ride the rides with her at Disney World.
A normal sized body is a gift both to your health and your quality and length of life.
Think good thoughts. Make happy plans.
While it is normal to freak a bit, there is no reason why you have to listen to it.
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 5, 2014 13:26:44 GMT -5
Your anxiety is very normal, especially given you are revising from an RNY to a DS. No one has bariatric surgery thinking they'll have to do it twice! Your revision is a more complicated surgery than your RNY, so you're recovery might be a little harder; I saw your posts on historytracker's thread. Feel free to vent/ask those questions here too to make sure you get the best responses. Also, have a look at this surgery prep thread, it will help you get an idea of what to expect: weightlosssurgery.proboards.com/thread/8801/surgery-expect-planYou do the best you can to focus on the fact you are taking a step to save your life, be healthy for you and your family for a LONG time, to really live! It's good that you are reading other people's experiences, it helps give you a picture. Complications are a risk and part of it, but remember too that its human nature for people to post when they are in stress/problem mode, don't always post when things are fabulous! So sometimes it seems like a 'lot' but as awful as some of these ordeals are, and a part of it, there are so many doing well, far more than not. Complications are a small percentage - a real one - but small. There are wonderful stories, lots of NSVs that detail the happiness of being healthy at last. And we are here for questions and venting all the time.
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 5, 2014 13:37:26 GMT -5
Thanks Yes I want the info even bad and trying to keep it on perspective. I think it was different for me last time cause i weighted 400lbs. I certainly would have died sooner than later back than. . I even remmeber thinking what's the worse that can happen. . I will die. . Well I was doing that anyway. . It's different this time. I only weight 278. That's still a lot but it's not going to kill me. If it were not for the ability of takeing the nsaids after this surgery I probably would have chickened out by now. I am in soo much pain knees and shoulders with this arthritis it is too much. I know that even though I have done good this year loosing 22 lbs I know it is only a matter of time before I give up again from the pain and the weight will start coming on again. This way I get to take the nsaids so the pain doesn't overwhelm me and I get to loose weight to help take the strain off my knees. A win win situation. 2 more days
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 5, 2014 15:01:17 GMT -5
Thanks Yes I want the info even bad and trying to keep it on perspective. I think it was different for me last time cause i weighted 400lbs. I certainly would have died sooner than later back than. . I even remmeber thinking what's the worse that can happen. . I will die. . Well I was doing that anyway. It's different this time. I only weight 278. That's still a lot but it's not going to kill me. If it were not for the ability of takiing the nsaids after this surgery I probably would have chickened out by now. I am in soo much pain knees and shoulders with this arthritis it is too much. I know that even though I have done good this year loosing 22 lbs I know it is only a matter of time before I give up again from the pain and the weight will start coming on again. This way I get to take the nsaids so the pain doesn't overwhelm me and I get to loose weight to help take the strain off my knees. A win win situation. 2 more days I think it's great that you have perspective about going from 400 lbs to 278 lbs, it's definitely progress and better than where you were. But take a close look up there at what you wrote. I was 280 lbs when I had my RNY, 240 lbs when I had my revision. You are still morbidly obese, you have arthritis, and, a metabolic propensity to REGAIN. That is why you are open to a revision, because you have a chance to not only NOT be morbidly obese any longer but a hugely improved shot at not regaining if you are compliant and work your surgery tool. And yes, you will be able to take pain management, and, the weight loss could ease some of the degree of the pain. It's important that people remember surgery is not just about weight loss (rapid or otherwise), but also being able to sustain weight loss/weight management for the long haul.
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Post by cherylbaker on Jul 5, 2014 15:25:00 GMT -5
You are right the maintenence part is the important part.
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Post by historytracker on Jul 6, 2014 3:31:33 GMT -5
Cheryl - the girls are right. It is so much more scarier not to have the surgery. I was 380 pounds before gastric bypass and got down to 220 - only to regain back up to 286. In no way did I think I was healthy. I was always tired, had high cholesterol and low self-esteem. I desperately wanted to finish what I started back in 2001. I am just 6 days post op from DS and I WOULD NEVER CHANGE THIS DECISION. Yes the hospital sucks with IV's and all the fluids they put into you, but that is only TEMPORARY. Right now the joy for me is not CRAVING FOOD. I start full liquids today and well, I am looking forward to cottage cheese and some Greek yogurt. I cannot wait to shop for clothes before school starts and to reach a normal weight that is healthy.
The day before the surgery I planned a little outing - drove up to Hyde Park and went to the historic home of Eleanor Roosevelt and did some hiking and photography. Do something special for yourself? Pull something out of the closet that you were dying to wear, but couldn't fit in. Set some goals and stay on target. What will be - will be. You can get through this.
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Post by Girlrocker on Jul 11, 2014 17:20:26 GMT -5
Ok, I think all the above posters are now newbie post-ops, woohoo! I know there's some more pre-ops out there, in my best Joey Tribbiani voice, 'how you doin'?!
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