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Post by tweters on Jan 19, 2012 1:35:19 GMT -5
Do any of you ever regret your decision to have the DS? I am having a big fear that I will regret my decision, but I can't find any reason I would regret it. My surgery is scheduled for the 26th. I am in the home stretch and have started the liquid diet. Thanks.
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Post by Joanne on Jan 19, 2012 2:05:10 GMT -5
HELL NO!!!
It is so cliche to say this, but my only regret is not having done it sooner.
My regrets are...
-missing a good part of my adult life because I was too obese, ashamed, tired, (etc) to get out of the house and do things. Or get a different job. Or go back to college.
-the days, which added up to an accumulation of time to be measured, I'm sure, in months if not years, spent napping on the couch because I was too tired to get up.
-too many days with tired, swollen feet and ankles
-too many failed diets, thinking if I only had more willpower to stick with it that I would be thin.
-too much time feeling guilty about the too many failed diets
Things like that are my regrets, and that I waited until I was 47 years old until I started to live the life I always dreamed of having.
I could drop dead from a DS complication tomorrow, and still say it was worth it all.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2012 2:07:54 GMT -5
NO! (With the first 48 hours being the exception. That's when I wanted Dr. Houston to just put everything back the way it was and get the number of the truck that hit me.)
My recovery was very rough. I was nauseated and had a lot of vomiting for at least 4 months. It seemed like forever before I could meet my protein, water, and supplement requirements. Yet I did and the stomach woes went away. I no longer have hypertension, high cholesterol, or sleep apnea. I underwent successful knee replacement surgery last August. I have no doubt that if I had that surgery while obese, it would have been horrible.
I am now fully engaged in life and not just watching it pass me by.
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Post by beth28 on Jan 19, 2012 3:20:02 GMT -5
I agree with Joanne B. I wish I had it done earlier, about 5 years ago.
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Post by galla1 on Jan 19, 2012 5:53:06 GMT -5
No way!! Good luck!
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Post by scoob on Jan 19, 2012 6:52:38 GMT -5
Hell NO! Best thing I EVER did for me!!
Ruby
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Post by freckled1 on Jan 19, 2012 8:09:47 GMT -5
I regret ever getting to the point that I needed a DS, but I don't regret getting it.
Trina
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Post by happycatbert on Jan 19, 2012 8:40:33 GMT -5
I'm with Trina - hate the fact I let myself get to the point where this was my only option. That being said - no regrets, and I would do it again tomorrow if I had to (but because I chose a DS, that won't happen  Sharon |
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Post by clpeltz on Jan 19, 2012 9:30:25 GMT -5
NOPE! The only thing I regret was not having done the right research the first time around. I wish I would have originally gotten the DS instead of having the RNY first.
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Post by fullhousemom on Jan 19, 2012 9:49:34 GMT -5
You wont get all 1200 or 1300 members to respond, and I know not all of them are DSers, but I have yet to see anyone post on the old site, that they regretted their decision. NOT ONE! Even after some had a year of complications from a a RNY revision to a DS! That says mountains about the DS!
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Post by sarahanne on Jan 19, 2012 9:56:38 GMT -5
Yeah it transforms your life in ways you will not imagine. For me, after a lifetime of being FAT FAT FAT I am now normal. Getting used to that is very interesting. All I can say is I wish I did it when I was 21 (had it done a year ago when I was 28). Oh well.
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Post by mark540 on Jan 19, 2012 10:00:51 GMT -5
No regrets. I look at the amount of work I used to do in an entire weekend, yard work, laundry, cleaning, basic household chore etc.., and I now do all these things on a Saturday morning. I have so much energy it's disgusting.
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Post by zoetrope on Jan 19, 2012 10:02:22 GMT -5
Are you kidding? It took me years to get to a revision. I was miserable before.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2012 10:02:31 GMT -5
My only regret is not having it sooner.
I would have this surgery once a year if that is what it took!
Good luck!
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Post by Eileen_nc on Jan 19, 2012 10:03:53 GMT -5
Not a single regret comes to mind.
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Post by Girlrocker on Jan 19, 2012 12:20:26 GMT -5
You wont get all 1200 or 1300 members to respond, and I know not all of them are DSers, but I have yet to see anyone post on the old site, that they regretted their decision. NOT ONE! Even after some had a year of complications from a a RNY revision to a DS! That says mountains about the DS! And as a recent revision, I hope to remain complication free, as I went through the ringer with my RNY. My only regrets are I didn't have the DS first (my insurance at the time wouldn't cover it) and that I'd had WLS in my 20s instead of my 40s. Whatever happens from this point forward, I will never regret doing something to save my health and my life, after years of physical, psychological and emotional suffering. |
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Post by stacee on Jan 19, 2012 12:30:26 GMT -5
My only regret is I didn't do it sooner. My kids would have had such a different childhood. My hubby woulda had a different kinda wife! No regrets here. Life is amazing!
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Post by bb212 on Jan 19, 2012 13:17:34 GMT -5
I also wish I had the DS performed sooner. No regrets, my quality of life in terms of health,diet and physical comfort is so much better now. I'd do it all over again.
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Post by tweters on Jan 19, 2012 13:23:56 GMT -5
Thank you to each and every one of you for your responses.
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Post by anewmii on Jan 19, 2012 13:53:18 GMT -5
To repeat what so many have said..... I just wish I had done it in my 20s instead of my 40s. The best thing I've ever done for my health!! Good Luck... It's a wild ride!!  WEEEEEE!!!! Sliding down the scale. |
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Post by vangy04 on Jan 19, 2012 15:56:58 GMT -5
I regretted it for maybe 5 minutes about two weeks after returning to Brazil while I was laying on my couch with severe stomach pain because of some iron pills I'd taken.
Since then, never crossed my mind, not even with all those boils/abscesses I posted about last week. Just this morning I was watching myself brush my teeth in the mirror, wondering where that person staring back at me came from. NO REGRETS!!
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Post by shann_ds on Jan 19, 2012 16:48:36 GMT -5
Okay, I do NOT regret my surgery. It was the best decision I've ever made & I truly believe I saved my own life.
However, I do have my moments of ..... I don't know what to call them, not regret, but I guess frustration. At times I wish I could just take a time out from my surgery. It's exhausting to always think about what I'm eating, whether I have my pills, what I'm drinking, etc etc.... I miss being carefree about food & just eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted in whatever amounts I wanted. I get sick of always having to be the one who chooses the restaurant, the timing of when to eat - of everything revolving around my food.
DON'T get me wrong that I'm whining. I accept all this & I don't regret my surgery. I just wanted to let you know that I do sometimes have days of not feeling like rainbows & unicorns.
(sorry if this comes across as bad attitude. Not meant that way.)
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Post by RedSkittles on Jan 19, 2012 17:20:21 GMT -5
Absolutely not.
I wish I hadn't needed it in the first place, but that's a completely different story altogether.
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Post by Fade2Pink on Jan 19, 2012 18:08:20 GMT -5
I do not regret having surgery, or chosing the DS. It took me a long time to get mentally and physically ready to admit I needed WLS to reclaim my health, but it's been a great process, with very few bumps on the road to this point.
After 2 1/2 years I rarily have to think about what I'm eating, what vitamins I am taking, etc. That is now my routine. It's all good on this side of the DS.
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Post by tweters on Jan 19, 2012 18:14:45 GMT -5
Okay, I do NOT regret my surgery. It was the best decision I've ever made & I truly believe I saved my own life. However, I do have my moments of ..... I don't know what to call them, not regret, but I guess frustration. At times I wish I could just take a time out from my surgery. It's exhausting to always think about what I'm eating, whether I have my pills, what I'm drinking, etc etc.... I miss being carefree about food & just eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted in whatever amounts I wanted. I get sick of always having to be the one who chooses the restaurant, the timing of when to eat - of everything revolving around my food. DON'T get me wrong that I'm whining. I accept all this & I don't regret my surgery. I just wanted to let you know that I do sometimes have days of not feeling like rainbows & unicorns. (sorry if this comes across as bad attitude. Not meant that way.) Thank you so much for your honesty. I do not see what you said as whining at all. I see it as honest and open frustration. I feel like everyone says this surgery is not like work. But it is work, not really hard work. But it takes planning and as I have seen with my wife's surgery, all daily activities revolve around food (when to eat, where to eat, how much to eat, etc.) I think your comments explained my feelings in many ways. I exalt you!!!! |
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Post by terilynne on Jan 19, 2012 18:39:53 GMT -5
No regrets here in having the DS. Like most of us, I only regret waiting to get the DS. I have some frustrations though because I still have that "diet brain drama" as I've not lost near what I needed to, and I did, and still do, what I am supposed to. High protein, low carb, water, vitamins. No exercise for the last 4 months due to injury but prior it was about 40 hours a week of exercise. I am sure I would have much less success with any of the other surgeries. I wish you much success on your journey |
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Post by Jolly Rancher on Jan 19, 2012 20:07:42 GMT -5
Okay, I do NOT regret my surgery. It was the best decision I've ever made & I truly believe I saved my own life. However, I do have my moments of ..... I don't know what to call them, not regret, but I guess frustration. At times I wish I could just take a time out from my surgery. It's exhausting to always think about what I'm eating, whether I have my pills, what I'm drinking, etc etc.... I miss being carefree about food & just eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted in whatever amounts I wanted. I get sick of always having to be the one who chooses the restaurant, the timing of when to eat - of everything revolving around my food. DON'T get me wrong that I'm whining. I accept all this & I don't regret my surgery. I just wanted to let you know that I do sometimes have days of not feeling like rainbows & unicorns. (sorry if this comes across as bad attitude. Not meant that way.) Agree with this. I'm not a resounding NO as most people are. I'm a NO most of the time. I have no issues with vitamins at home, but I hate having to tote them along with me on business trips. I hate having to be very careful about what I eat period. Not just traveling, but at home also. I hate that I can't get past the "stuck" and vomiting thing, even though it's much less extreme than it was at first. I hate the bloating when I have NO idea what I've eaten wrong, or getting up in the night several times to use the bathroom when I definitely haven't eaten anything "wrong"...... So, I definitely don't consider your post negative at all. I consider it reality. I do NOT regret not being MO anymore, not even a little, and most days the benefits outweigh the crap!. Sometimes I do get annoyed and wish it was different. ETA - Switcharoo on words |
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Post by freckled1 on Jan 19, 2012 20:43:00 GMT -5
Okay, I do NOT regret my surgery. It was the best decision I've ever made & I truly believe I saved my own life. However, I do have my moments of ..... I don't know what to call them, not regret, but I guess frustration. At times I wish I could just take a time out from my surgery. It's exhausting to always think about what I'm eating, whether I have my pills, what I'm drinking, etc etc.... I miss being carefree about food & just eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted in whatever amounts I wanted. I get sick of always having to be the one who chooses the restaurant, the timing of when to eat - of everything revolving around my food. DON'T get me wrong that I'm whining. I accept all this & I don't regret my surgery. I just wanted to let you know that I do sometimes have days of not feeling like rainbows & unicorns. (sorry if this comes across as bad attitude. Not meant that way.) Agree with this. I'm not a resounding NO as most people are. I'm a NO most of the time. I have no issues with vitamins at home, but I hate having to tote them along with me on business trips. I hate having to be very careful about what I eat period. Not just traveling, but at home also. I hate that I can't get past the "stuck" and vomiting thing, even though it's much less extreme than it was at first. I hate the bloating when I have NO idea what I've eaten wrong, or getting up in the night several times to use the bathroom when I definitely haven't eaten anything "wrong"...... So, I definitely don't consider your post negative at all. I consider it reality. I do NOT regret not being MO anymore, not even a little, and most days the crap outweighs the benefits. Sometimes I do get annoyed and wish it was different. I puked up all sorts of food my first year. It began as a pretty severe problem. As I progressed further post-op, I threw up less and less. I only throw up now if there's a reason, such as a virus. Or spaghetti, I cannot eat spaghetti, even a tiny bit or I'll be hurling! Don't be discouraged! You will probably be able to forget this phase, though it may be a while. Trina |
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Post by pumpkin on Jan 19, 2012 20:46:01 GMT -5
Okay, I do NOT regret my surgery. It was the best decision I've ever made & I truly believe I saved my own life. However, I do have my moments of ..... I don't know what to call them, not regret, but I guess frustration. At times I wish I could just take a time out from my surgery. It's exhausting to always think about what I'm eating, whether I have my pills, what I'm drinking, etc etc.... I miss being carefree about food & just eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted in whatever amounts I wanted. I get sick of always having to be the one who chooses the restaurant, the timing of when to eat - of everything revolving around my food. DON'T get me wrong that I'm whining. I accept all this & I don't regret my surgery. I just wanted to let you know that I do sometimes have days of not feeling like rainbows & unicorns. (sorry if this comes across as bad attitude. Not meant that way.) Agree with this. I'm not a resounding NO as most people are. I'm a NO most of the time. I have no issues with vitamins at home, but I hate having to tote them along with me on business trips. I hate having to be very careful about what I eat period. Not just traveling, but at home also. I hate that I can't get past the "stuck" and vomiting thing, even though it's much less extreme than it was at first. I hate the bloating when I have NO idea what I've eaten wrong, or getting up in the night several times to use the bathroom when I definitely haven't eaten anything "wrong"...... So, I definitely don't consider your post negative at all. I consider it reality. I do NOT regret not being MO anymore, not even a little, and most days the crap outweighs the benefits. Sometimes I do get annoyed and wish it was different. I understand what you are saying here and have felt that way many times when it came to eating or not being able to eat with my bands. The thing that upsets me most is that I traded being thinner for a laundry list of painful health problems that I didn't have when I was morbidly obese. Now I tote around a heavy purse with lots of medications to help protect my stomach from IBS pain. Unfortunately the heavy purse triggers fibro and back pain as well. I Should never have chosen the minimally invasive Lap Band. |
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Post by Girlrocker on Jan 19, 2012 21:22:22 GMT -5
I can empathize and concur with Jollyrancher too, speaking from a perspective of first an RNY in 2002, and now this revision. It's not always rainbows, but like most things in life, a balancing act in terms of life-defining qualities. Since the outcome can be as individual as we are, I think it's good for people to know - this takes work. Thought. Planning. Organization. It's too soon for me to know where I'll be in terms of long-range food intolerances, bowel issues. But I can honestly say, whatever happens going forward, I'll never regret grabbing the second chance to make things right, have a real shot at the health I've sought all along.
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