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Post by smokinstella on Jan 11, 2012 19:11:33 GMT -5
So what goals do you hope to achieve since your surgery or after your surgery if your pre-op? Mine is to never miss another family outting, because I dont fit in the seats or I would be laid up for days afterwards. Along with be here as long as possible for my kids.  |
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Post by Kim S on Jan 11, 2012 20:36:33 GMT -5
Mine is to be at a stable weight and not have to face yet another yo-yo. At 6 years post-op I can say I've achieved this. I had a 15 pound regain in 2010 which I've taken off plus a little more.
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Post by abright0 on Jan 11, 2012 23:53:24 GMT -5
I want to be able to ride roller coasters with my kids. That is the main reason I wanted the surgery (well that and to actually live long enough to see my kids grow up).
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Post by nextchapter on Jan 12, 2012 0:27:19 GMT -5
Great question I think about my goals a lot. First family; I have a 2 year old and I want her not to struggle with her weight. I want to be a positive remodel . Hubby has a health, confident active wife!!
For me; A few years back I discover a love for exercise, I love running and cycling. With all of the exercise I did I couldn’t get out of the obese BMI. This is my goal to be at a healthy BMI, feel good in a swim suit. Take total emersion swim lessons then work my way up to an Iron man.
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Post by aronsmom on Jan 12, 2012 1:40:42 GMT -5
My goal is to have a closet full of clothes that fit me. I currently have some that fit me, but mostly too small. About two years ago a bought a size 4 dress at a second hand store as inspiration. I'd love to be able to wear it someday!
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Post by Leonie on Jan 13, 2012 3:07:48 GMT -5
I want to crawl on the floor with my grandchild.
I want to be confident at a job interview.
I want to climb Table Mountain
I want to learn to scuba-dive
I want to live until I'm 99
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Post by SLVinNorCA on Jan 18, 2012 16:50:36 GMT -5
I've never called myself SMO before but it's one place where I do actually FIT lol
I like the term Heavyweight, makes me think of Boxing..."Float like a butterfly, sting like a Bee"
Okay back to the subject.
Quite a few goals...
Get Back To...
A Normal BMI (wildest dream to be in the lower end, was "normal" in teen years and didn't know it)
Moving my body the way it was designed to move.
Feeling confident in who I am (enough to let people in, emotionally)
Sleeping without a Machine.
Riding a Horse, Motorcycle, Roller Coaster, Man (smirk)
Being able to cross my legs, sit on the floor.
Being able to FIT in a bathtub, maybe even a shower with another person (double smirk)
Possibly get a different career (from the confidence boost)
Having enough energy to...
Yeah, I've got goals!
S~
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Post by hala2215 on Jan 18, 2012 17:10:58 GMT -5
wear high heels
wear boots with high heels
wear dresses
be able to fit in a compact car (when renting or in Europe)
fit in a small private plane
fit in a bathroom on a plane (commercial)
Done all of that and more... much more.
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Post by So Blessed on Jan 19, 2012 9:15:06 GMT -5
I made a list when I was pre op. It was so cool to be able to check them off as the weight came off. Your time is coming too! October 18, 2004What I Won't Miss …1. Feeling like I've failed yet once again at losing weight 2. Having bras cut into the fat rolls on my sides 3. My feet and ankles hurting when I stand up first thing in the morning 4. Feeling like my shoulder joint is being crushed when I lie on my side 5. Knees that hurt when I walk or try to climb stairs 6. Getting out of breath doing little or nothing 7. Looking old and frumpy 8. Back pain 9. Feeling sleepy all the time 10. Having no energy 11. Buying clothes just because they're big enough 12. Worrying if the clothes I just bought a couple of months ago still fit 13. Having multiple sizes of clothes in my closet – and most don’t fit 14. Getting evil looks from the person next to me on the plane 15. Squeezing into restaurant booths or amusement park rides 16. Wondering if a seat is strong enough to hold me 17. Feeling self conscious about how I look 18. Missing out on opportunities to advance in my career 19. Not being able to cross my legs 20. Pantyhose with a hole in the inner thigh – nuff said 21. Having to spend more money than thinner people on my clothes 22. Not having enough room in my suitcase when I travel 23. Few opportunities to date 24. Not being small enough to wear my date's jacket 25. Not being able to give myself a pedicure comfortably 26. Other hygiene issues – chafing, sweating, skin breakdown, etc. 27. My shoes being too tight on my feet 28. Having to wear loafers instead of pumps with business suits 29. Getting frequent bruises from bumping into stuff 30. Feeling like I need a fork lift to get out of the bathtub or climb into an SUV 31. Having people watch to see what I'll eat |
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Post by lisalou79 on Jan 21, 2012 22:45:54 GMT -5
So Blessed, your list hit home with me as I am currently SSMO and am trying to afford DS. I hope you don't mind but I snagged it (felt like you were writing with me in mind, lol) and added to it.
If I find a way to have DS surgery, things I won't miss:
1. Feeling like I've failed yet once again at losing weight
2. Having bras and underwear cut into my flash
3. My feet and ankles hurting when I stand up first thing in the morning
4. Feeling like my shoulder joint is being crushed when I lie on my side
5. Knees that hurt when I walk or try to climb stairs
6. Getting out of breath doing little or nothing
7. Looking old and frumpy
8. Back pain
9. Feeling sleepy all the time
10. Having no energy
11. Buying clothes just because they're big enough
12. Worrying if the clothes I just bought a couple of months ago still fit
13. Having multiple sizes of clothes in my closet – and most don’t fit
14. Refusing social invites because I’ve gained more weight and clothes don’t fit
14. Not fitting into an airplane seat, let alone clicking the belt
15. Not fitting in restaurant booths
16. Wondering if a seat is strong enough to hold me
17. Feeling self-conscious about how I look
18. Getting the interview but not the job
19. Not being able to cross my legs
20. Pantyhose with a hole in the inner thigh – nuff said
21. Having to spend more money than thinner people on my clothes
22. Not fitting well in movie theater seats, feeling like I’m spilling over to the people on either side
23. Not having people look me in the eye
24. Not being small enough to wear my husband’s shirts comfortably
25. Not being able to give myself a pedicure or shave comfortably
26. Other hygiene issues – chafing, sweating, hard time wiping, reaching all of me to bathe.
27. My shoes being tight on my feet
28. Having to wear flat shoes all the time, never anything with heels
29. Getting frequent bruises from bumping into stuff
30. Feeling like I need a fork lift to get out of the bathtub or climb into our van
31. Having people watch to see what I'll eat
32. Knocking things over behind me because of my huge butt
33. Only fitting into the “granny” clothes
34. Not feeling feminine because of my weight
35. Not being able to chase my toddler around
36. Not doing more things outside of the house with my kids for fear of people staring
37. Not being able to dance with friends for fear of people staring at the jiggles
38. Being called “Big Girl” “Big Mamma” or any other qausi-insult that people insist are just being playful with me
39. Hardly being able to move to get around
40. Always being the biggest lady in the room
41. Never having a man flirt with me (Hey, I’m married but not going to lie, women feel good when this happens. It makes us feel girly)
42. Not fitting in the bathtub easily, definitely no room to shift and bathe
43. Not having blood pressure cuffs fit my upper arm
44. Not having a medical person realize the cuff won’t fit and try anyways (embarrassing as hell)
45. That look of relief women sometimes get that screams they’re thanking God they’re not in my shoes
46. That look of disgust men get when they look at me and find me repulsive (sometimes women look this way too)
47. Not having people hug me (Fat is not contagious)
48. Never having a stranger sit by me in any of my college classes
49. Breaking a bed
50. Breaking a chair
51. Breaking the couch
52. My current size that allows me to consider a size 26 in women’s as being “small”
53. Feeling unworthy of make-up and jewelry for fear it would be like “decorating a turd”
54. Running into people who haven’t seen me in a while and seeing shock as they realize I’ve gained MORE weight
55. Avoiding running into people I haven’t seen in a while for fear of number 54
56. Doctors not being able to find a vein because they are buried under layers of fat
57. Being too large to wear clothes from Lane Bryant
58. Having to try and hide my breathlessness when people pass me walking to class
59. Having to always go above and beyond to be funny, charming, nice, etc. just so I am heard in a group
60. Being afraid no one will be strong enough to carry me in my casket
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Post by aqua19 on Jan 24, 2012 22:27:09 GMT -5
Wear tight jeans and still be able to breathe! Not being afraid that I won't fit in the rides at the amusement parks! Wear a bikini! Not feel like all eyes are on me...in a bad way! Be happy, get married and have babies and babies and chase them everywhere! Live to be a little old lady with my awesome husband, looking and feeling good and watching my children and grandchildren grow up |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2012 15:12:45 GMT -5
My goal is to not wind up in a nursing home because I'm obese (that's what happened to my mother).
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2012 8:07:43 GMT -5
Wear tight jeans and still be able to breathe! Not being afraid that I won't fit in the rides at the amusement parks! Wear a bikini! Not feel like all eyes are on me...in a bad way! Be happy, get married and have babies and babies and chase them everywhere! Live to be a little old lady with my awesome husband, looking and feeling good and watching my children and grandchildren grow up Well, the bikini part will require some reconstructive surgery . I do a tankini top and board shorts bottom. Being able to breathe in DENIM (as opposed to the fake knit things available in "extended" sizes) is a really cool milestone. |
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Post by Stella Blue on Feb 3, 2012 2:45:02 GMT -5
My goal is to feel OK in this body.
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Post by elisa on Feb 11, 2012 21:57:53 GMT -5
I wanted to take a dance class. I signed up for an adult jazz class when I was a year and a half out. Even danced in two recitals |
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Post by msteamshrink on Jun 21, 2012 11:14:20 GMT -5
my main goal right now is to be comfy in my own skin and with dropping 95lbs I think I am doing it already. I have to think of somethings i want to add.
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Post by sheilal on Jun 21, 2012 12:33:25 GMT -5
I want to be smaller than my husband.
Play with my seven year old son.
Work out with my older son.
Ride my bike. Might be able to now, but I am not brave enough yet.
Get rid of my fat apron.
Have less pain.
Run up and down my stairs.
Look wonderful at my sons wedding next year.
Go fishing with my daddy.
Enjoy the outdoors.
Ride the rides at an amusement park.
And a lot more!
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Post by angelcake on Jun 21, 2012 14:22:42 GMT -5
LOL - I've had it called 'lipstick on a pig' and that one often sticks in my head ;D 53. Feeling unworthy of make-up and jewelry for fear it would be like “decorating a turd” |
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Post by aksunshyne on Jun 21, 2012 14:35:24 GMT -5
As I get closer to my surgery I think about how different life is going to be after; when I get nervous about the negatives I try to outshine them with the positives:
Being the first person to ride my colt and not feeling guilty every time I get on a horse.
My feet not aching after a day standing and walking in the arena.
Wearing 'cute' clothes that don't squish my chub out in odd and unflattering places.
Kayaking the river.
Swimming in these beautiful alpine lakes in an actual bathing suit, not a t-shirt and shorts.
Wearing sleeveless tops.
Not getting out of breath while I walk and talk in lessons.
Sleeping without various limbs going numb.
Etc. etc. etc... :-)
Great topic!!
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Post by travelingmomoftwo on Jun 21, 2012 16:20:00 GMT -5
Do I have goals! I'd love to (sorry of some are repeated!):
1) Shop with friends in the 'normal' sizes, instead of alone in the plus size section,
2) be able to wear what I want instead of what fits me,
3) to not walk into every room and look around to see if I'm the fattest again,
4) to not be described as heavy, fat, etc.
5) to be comfortable wearing a swimsuit in front of family, friends, and even strangers,
6) to not worry chairs will break or collapse if I sit in them,
7) to be able to go to the theater and movies and not flow over into the other seat,
8) to not be out of breath with a walk upstairs,
9) to have more energy,
10) to not avoid social events because of my weight,
11) not have my feet and knees hurt each day,
12) to feel sexy!
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Post by MsVee on Jun 21, 2012 17:49:34 GMT -5
I want to be healthy and mobile.
I want to not be restricted by my size.
I do not want to be the fattest person in the room.
I want to travel without the fear if I lose my luggage if there is a store for plus sizes.
I want to take a bicycle trip through New England.
I want to relax and be myself and not have fat define me.
MsVee
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Post by nykegyrl on Jul 16, 2012 19:28:51 GMT -5
I want to be able to be there for my child as she grows up (she is 1). I want to feel attractive. I want to be able to not fear breaking chairs, or having to ask myself if I will fit everywhere we go. I want to REALLY live, not just drag along.
I have been heavy my whole life. In kindergarten I was 80 lbs. By 5th grade I was 180. I am 30 yrs old, 350 lbs, and I have osteoarthritis in my right knee.
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Post by chicarita on Jul 17, 2012 6:05:33 GMT -5
I'm only three months out and some of these are already happening:
Never again be relegated to the "fat seat" on a ride or worry if the bar will close and have to take the walk of shame off the ride if it doesn't.
Shop in thrift stores where they have amazing designer vintage clothing for very little money
Develop a personal style based on what I like to wear, not on what fits.
Wear a two piece bathing suit
Not worry about people watching me eat or buy food at the grocery store
Go skydiving
Ride horses again
Dance classes
Not worry about being the fattest person at my company (this one may never happen, my whole company is made up of Barbies and GI Joes. I'm a 14 now and still, by far, the fattest person there. But at a size 8 or 10, I might not be so self conscious about it).
Live to see 100 as an active healthy little old lady, surrounded by her family.
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